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January Rants, Tiffs, Hissis and Catfights

Postby soni » Mon Jan 02, 2006 1:09 am

For the newbies, here are the rules: This is a free fire zone - no judgement, no holding back and absolutely no constructive criticism, suggestions or help. THIS MEANS YOU! Also, no PM's, no private emails with suggestions or anything like that, either. If these people want help with their problem, they'll post elsewhere on thr forum and you can ride up on your white horse and save the day to your heart's content. In this space, however, people are free to simply vent and have done with it, period. You may, however, compliment the rant if it is particularly good (or bad). We do grade for style. Very Happy Let the ranting begin!
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Postby soni » Mon Jan 02, 2006 1:14 am

Sorry this was a day late, but you know how those eggnog day-afters can be? LOL. Anyway, I get the priviledge of the first rant. Since nothing adds to being pissed like having to repeat yourself, I'll take the shortcut of cutting and pasting from my blog. ********************************************* Whatever genes men have that make them feel invulnerable, I really wish to hell someone could uncouple it from my husband's computer-using brain centers. No matter how many times I tell him not to download stuff from a site unless he knows it's safe, like a teenager on spring break he still confuses "looks safe" with "is safe." Needless to say, just like not all dangerous people look like Charlie-Boy Manson on a bender, not all hacked-out sites look like some meth-head with a trial version of Front Page created it. And yes, even well-populated and professional sites can be at risk, especially if they are exactly the sites that attract lots of young, computer literate men with more time than sense on their hands and the capacity to upload user-created content. You know, places like computer game sites and robot-building sites, where it's just possible that downloading patches, movies and other shiny objects may result in...oh, I don't know...6 instances of CoolWebSearch! Aaaaahahahhahahahhah! GGGAAAAHAHAHAAH! Kaah...sssttthh...ppffttt...sob. Please, God, no! Not the antibiotic-resistant clap of virtual STDs - on my innocent, virginal new computer! Trying to remove this pest is like trying to clean hardened super glue out of a clockworks. And that's just one variety of nasty that has suddenly appeared on my poor, beloved computer in the last day or two since I did the last scan. There are more. Trojan Horses. EXE files of all shapes and flavors. Creeping crud of all manner and kind. I feel like the bad-hacker's version of Noah, with two of everything on board in case of tidal Internet flooding. Normally, I only have to run my scanners once a month and get nada except maybe a few sticky cookies. Now, in less than a week, my computer looks like the Lone Gunmen threw up in it. I'd be furious if he wasn't so disgustingly naive. "I wasn't at a porn site," he mumbled, looking down at his feet. Well, goodie. Thanks for small miracles. We've been through that one before. I have no personal issues with porn itself. But I've forbidden porn surfing, on my computer anyway (which at this time is the only one with web access), for security reasons. Now this. You'd think that the basic reasoning for not surfing porn sites (places where lots of bored young men with perhaps not the cleanest minds in the world with lots of time on their hands and plenty of ways to upload customized files for distribution congregate and proliferate) would, via common sense, be applied to other such possible sites. You'd be wrong. Like a child who's been told not to jump on the bed, but who then still has to be told also not to jump on each and every other piece of stuffed and sprung furniture (you didn't say anything about jumping on the couch), apparently I'm going to have to find a way to create and install a custom HOSTS file in my husband somehow, noting each and every site he cannot visit, individually and distinctly. Gah!!!! Update: Okay, now I'm mad. Sober worm tracks. Lots of Sober worm tracks. Somebody is getting Internet perks revoked. Again. Back to the library for hubs. ******************************************** For those of you keeping score, that's twice that he's KO'd my computer. Luckily, I caught this before it actually ate my computer. But getting rid of it is going to be tricky. I've already discovered that I can't restore, even in safe mode. Blacklight is showing a few hidden files that may indicate a rootkit (gotta research the file names before I do anything rash). God love him, he's such a net baby. I've already told him that when he gets internet access on his computer, our network had better be set up so that my computer and his can't even see each other. I may just pay to have him get his own separate line altogether.
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Postby GiniDee » Mon Jan 02, 2006 1:37 am

Terrific rant, soni! I don't currently have a rant myself, but I must compliment yours. Hugs - Gini :D
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Bright ideas

Postby sparrowhawk » Mon Jan 02, 2006 11:15 am

I am a geek. I have more than one bright idea to take care of this. Best answer: password the computer so he can't get in. Do a BIOS password if you have to (look it up). Then get him a Mac. I'm not kidding. Macs are MUCH harder to hose than PCs. Second-best answer: (combo) - Password your own admin account, create a new one as restricted user. He gets the restricted user account. - Google for \"skallas HOSTS\" and install the hosts file trick. That stops a lot of the spyware. - After you figure out how the hosts file trick works, add his fave websites to the list that are most annoying to you. He'll wonder why he can't surf those sites anymore. - Hide the Internet Explorer icon. Install Firefox. Install the NoScript extension. That protects your computer from a lot of stuff. - check http://www.spywarewarrior.com for latest anti-spyware ideas. Have fun. :)
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Postby soni » Mon Jan 02, 2006 12:18 pm

Thing is, he was using Firefox. All the firewalls in the world can't help you if a naive surfer starts downloading every movie, game patch and what have you that piques his interest. Definitely working on the custom hosts file thing. Thinking I might have to do a nuke and pave, but I've got a few more options I'm looking into first. I soooo do not want to reformat right now. I'm right in the middle of a bunch of projects and reformatting always makes me nervous that I'm going to sneeze at the wrong time and obliterate my naked computer beyond redemption. Definitely looking into the guest user thing, too. You can be it'll be buttoned up so tight he'll have to log off to fart. :P
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Postby Jezicka » Mon Jan 02, 2006 1:01 pm

Tooth-nash time! I've been trying to create some calendars/wall-charts for myself to help in getting organized (among other things, so I can start doing some of the photo-editing and desktop publishing which I spent mucho-bucks learning in October-November...) But... :oops: I still haven't got the system upgraded so I can install my copy of CSII, so I can't do it in InDesign or Photoshop, :evil: I can't find my CD of another program which I've used before to produce fairly nice-looking calendars, :x The one I did find produces fairly crappy-looking ones and has really limited editing functions... So... Instead of starting out the new year with a bang, it's beginning to look like it's usual slow-fizzle... :roll:
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Postby alwen » Mon Jan 02, 2006 7:05 pm

Boo hoo. We have a problem in this house, where when we heat with wood, the whole house stays toasty warm and we don't have to use the LP gas furnace. Given the jump in LP gas prices, this should be a good thing, at least for the budget. However. A couple of times, in my studio at the far end of the house from the woodstove, we have had this weird condensation problem, where humidity in the air condenses in the not-used-very-often furnace run, and drips out of the ceiling vent. It doesn't happen very often, and it doesn't happen very consistently. So we haven't been able to say, "Ah! A and B are happening, so we better run the furnace and make sure that vent doesn't get all covered with condensation or frost." I do have a bath towel push-pinned to the ceiling, so it is supposed to catch any small amounts of condensation. If it were really cold, I can imagine the humidity forming frost up there, and then having the frost warm up and drip out. If it was condensing all the time, I would think it would be dripping out all the time, and it doesn't. So why sometimes and not all the time? I just don't know! Boo. So it happened again. Fortunately I have re-arranged my studio, so it was not dripping smack into the bench of my floor loom! But what did it drip right next to, through the towel, and splash on? My journal! Guess what, my favorite fountain pen ink is. Not. Waterproof. Booooo. My printer's inkjet ink is. Not. Waterproof. It also got the bottom of my warping mill wet, but fortunately that's rock maple, and it would have to soak in a puddle for a week to think about warping. But speaking of warping, it also got my favorite clipboard, the one with the white and green marble pattern that I've had since high school, wet, and warped that. So I had to lay it on the warm floor before the woodstove with heatproof weights on. And to check this out, I have to go into the dark, cold, creepy attic and crawl to the far end of it from the trap door. Ick. I wish the people who built this house originally had done one thing in a way that showed they knew what the @#$%^ they were doing. Instead, over and over we find stuff, wiring, plumbing, insulation, sheathing, where we look at each other and say, "WHAT were they thinking???" http://lost-arts.blogspot.com/
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Postby mezzogoch » Tue Jan 03, 2006 1:24 pm

So soon in the new year to start the complaining, but. . . . I am \"rolling pennies for gas\" broke. No money for singing lessons, no singing opportunities for pay or otherwise. No Christmas magic that would have allowed me to spend New Year's eve on Echo Bay. (A concert of singers who's careers I follow, and a reception to hang out with them afterwords. I'd probably have been a wallflower anyway.) The DH left on Christmas morning to go to elk camp in Utah. I have been home alone with my son, which is not unpleasant, and often his little friend, so his single mother can get her business taken care of. What about mine? I have had no time sans kids this week at all, not even to go to church. I have picked up a new client. They are not particularly well paying but it's something. They require a notarized I9, and I did manage to eek out time to go to 2 different notaries who refused to notarize it because it isn't the standard notary verbiage. I thought the first one just wasn't very clever, now I wonder if I'm going to be able to get this done and get the client? I guess the topper is, that half a dead elk is on route to my dinning room. I think that's because it wasn't a clean shot and kill, and the DH is embarrassed to take it to the butcher. What is up with that? He cares more for the sensibilities of an anonymous butcher than he does about me. :cry:
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Postby Lost1 » Tue Jan 03, 2006 8:49 pm

Ahhh, a place to let off steam. PSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSTTT!!! It seems my friend, who I drove up the coast for Xmas, left the passenger window cranked down just a little bit, in my car -- enough to let in the rain from the wild rainstorm we had yesterday. I didn't know the window wasn't all the way up, so now my car upholstery is wet, the back window is fogged up and, if it starts to mildew (this happened with a car I had years ago), I'll have to get the upholstery stripped, cleaned and replaced. My insurance covered it years ago, I don't know if it will now. Gawd. GRRRRR :twisted: From now on I'll have to check every time I drive her anywhere, to make sure she rolled the window all the way up. I SO MUCH DON'T NEED THIS RIGHT NOW! Also... MY KNEE STILL HURTS!!! I'm SICK of my knee still hurting!!! I have to go back to the chiropractor in Whittier tomorrow (a schlep for me from Glendale) because the chiropractor (in Pasadena, closer to me) didn't do anything to fix my knee. He kept saying \"when your back feels better your knee will get better\" (I strained my back 3 weeks ago). HE WAS WRONG! And it's costing me money. Money I can't keep dolling out when I'm about to lose my job! I'm PISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSED :!: :twisted: I have such high hopes for this year. Judging by today, I may want to think twice... :(
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Postby GiniDee » Wed Jan 04, 2006 11:55 pm

Now I have a rant. I'm annoyed as hell. An acqaintance who has said she wanted to buy one of my artworks has canceled out three different times from making a studio visit to see the work. At the last minute, too. I'm tempted to ask her just to send me a check and I'll send her the piece. Don't people understand how much time and effort is entailed preparing for a studio visit? It's not just a drop-in and see the art kind of thing. I have to get the whole place scrubbed down and straightened up. My part isn't that bad, but my sister's part is like a jungle on steroids, and she does NOT like having her mess disturbed by anyone else but her. I have to make sure all my artwork hanging in the closets is accessible for showing, and organized. If the client is interested in Asian-inspired pieces, I need to have all of those together. If they prefer abstract or glitzy or geometric pieces, those need to be together. Or if there are specific colors they like better, those should be ready to show. I also have to go out and get snacks and nonalcoholic beverages for my guests. Plus I have to move chairs in from the front room to the studio area so there are enough comfortable places to sit. Then I have to scrub down the bathroom, and put the towels through the laundry, so everything is clean and sweet-smelling if anyone needs to use the can. All this preparation takes a couple of days, during which I am not doing nearly enough on my art. If I'm cleaning, I'm not arting. My time is far more valuable than that, but I also don't want clients to think my studio (and my home) is a wreck. It's not, usually. I do keep the place neat as much as I can, but I always have a lot of different projects going at one time, so the place does tend to feel scattered. :oops: :oops: :oops: Maybe I'm just too pliable. I never bitch when anyone has to change or cancel. Yet I am not happy about it. I don't want to make the client feel guilty or unwelcome. That's not the point. I just want people to keep their agreements, so I can get back to being a hermit crab. I want them to value my time, and I want to be sure I'm valuing my time enough too. Good thing I wasn't relying on that prospect for money for my daughter's meds. My writing money took care of that. But if I had been counting on that client for $$$, I'd have been S.O.L., as they say in the Army. Oh well, onward to another day. At least I can get back to my art. :roll: Hugs and stressed out cookies - Gini :D
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Postby groundhog » Sun Jan 08, 2006 7:25 am

Oh so cool!!! I need a good place to rant as poor husbands just aren't wired to take on that much female emotion! Okay, how do I start? let's see, without naming names or relations: If you are a relative of mine and you up and decide on a whim to divorce a perfectly wonderful husband, don't come looking for sympathy and a bunch of boo-hooing from the rest of us, if you aren't willing to confide what terrible thing he did. From the rest of the world's standpoint, he is the prize to be had and he is the one who is better off at this point. Furthermore, you are no longer a teenager, like you were when you got married, so stop bee-bopping around your Mommy and Daddy's house with your stupid Ipod hanging off your neck and your laptop full of games and toys, and complaining that your parents are entering your "room" again! For crying out loud, you're an adult! If your marriage didn't work out, so be it, but at the very least, be responsible and get yourself going in some direction other than hanging out with God knows who til 3 and 4 in the morning. It only makes you look like the suspicious one in the whole divorce situation. In the meantime, stop to think how ditching one of our favorite relatives has affected the rest of us - not just you - and that not being able to include him in holidays, etc. breaks our hearts. Whew! That feels better. Thanks for the forum!
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Postby twisterintexas » Sun Jan 08, 2006 7:25 am

I have a contributor to my site who wrote an extensive article. He lifted most of it from Wikipedia, though he says he wrote the Wikipedia article himself. Who cares! You can't lift entire lines that have already been published. Then I got a rude e-mail from one of the Wikipedia-nut-jobs who wrote bad things about my website and me, simply because I trusted that the contributor was above board. So now I've decided I won't take any articles from people I don't know unless they pertain to their family or location histories only. I am livid about being at the center of some flame war between the contributor and this malicious #$%^. I've never been a fan of Wikipedia and now I am completely unimpressed by it. The contributors seem to be all off their rocker. And, if they don't like the idea of having their writing and articles being used (and plagairized) by one and all - which often happens, since Wikipedia articles are public domain - then they should write somewhere else. They honestly think they can claim ownership to a sentence or two they edited on a Wikipedia article because they have an IP address attached to it??? Someone stop the stupid train, I'm ready to get off!
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Postby cyrano » Sun Jan 08, 2006 9:23 am

isn't doing layoffs in my organization this year. Instead, they're firing us all and giving us the chance to apply for new jobs that, on first blush, look something like the old jobs, only they require additional skills. But then they tell us that we are NOT to supply resumes, only to use teh application form on the company intranet...which asks for NOTHING more than name, address, phone, last degree obtained, and last five job titles. My educated guess is that they're trying to get rid of all the over-40s under the guise of claiming that they fired everyone. Of course, the pay is so rotten that most people laid off will take the severance (12-13 weeks pay) rather than fight. But the transparent hypocrisy of the "new" job is incredibly galling. I applied although I hated myself for doing it, but why in the world they might expect anyone to have any "company spirit" after this is beyond me.
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Postby Shiral » Sun Jan 08, 2006 11:31 am

ARRGHH!!! :evil: I really hate being handed a copy of The South Beach Diet, and being given a diet lecture by my mother on the first morning of the New Year! Meaning that she wants to butt back into my weight control issues where I absolutely DO NOT WANT HER! It's taken twenty-five years to get past all the resentment I felt against her for the great Diet Wars of my teens, where the main message I got from her was \"You Are Not Acceptable.\" This started when I was in fifth grade, by the way. I've heard a lifetime's worth of \"diet success stories\" and the \"let's go on a diet together\" lecture. If I have extremely negative associations with the D-word, it's due in great part to her nagging and fussing at me, and then turning around and giving my brother all the cookies he could hold. I can reduce, but then I'm the classic yo-yo dieter who just gains it all back with a net gain. This past summer and fall, I have been making determined and successful efforts to change my eating and excercise habits for the better, and doing it under MY OWN instigation, rather than because any outside person was nagging me to do it. I have not been calling it a diet but behavior change, and trying to make the changes gradual, but to really establish them as part of my life from now on. So I REALLY resent her shoving me in a direction I was already traveling without her interference! Now, I have all the old teenage feelings of rage and frustration back that make me not only want to eat but viciously assault some poor box of chocolates, somewhere. I haven't--yet. But I'm back in a relationship to wanting things I've been trying not to eat, but feeling deprived and nasty because I'm not eating them. Get lost, Mother! :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: Melissa
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Postby Tituba » Sun Jan 08, 2006 11:33 am

cyrano-there is a Dilbert cartoon on this. It occurs to me that you could scan the president's picture or the company logo and get alittle passive agressive revenge http://www.rowanlea.com/novelties/x-wipes/index.html Shiryl - Amen sister!
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