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Sorry, but I don't get it. If I hold the door open for someone, and say:"We can't forget him" then I'm an angel ?!?kashtanka wrote:My husband and I were getting ready to leave a restaurant when i noticed an elderly man having trouble opening the door to get into the restaurant. A man was behind him and held the door for the elderly man. The elderly man was holding the door now, and I was going to hold it for him so he could let go of the door (it was obvious that the door was too heavy for him) and he said "Go ahead Miss, I'll hold the door for you." Then he saw my husband approaching the door, and he held it for my husband too, saying "We can't forget about him." That guy was so nice and amazing, that I said to my husband "Do you think he was an angel in disguise?"
Well, then there's every once in a while a women at my workplace who knows fully well I'm walking very near behind her, yet she opens the door just a sliver to let their slim body slip through (why is it always the slim ones?), thus by the time I reach the door, I have to open it all the way for myself. It could be they're so weak they can only open it enough for their body to get through, or maybe they do it because they can, but in the name of common courtesy, it wouldn't be that hard to at least hold it open even that sliver until I got there, especially when it would only be a second or two. I would also say they might not know I'm coming, but the doors are all glass, so you can see the reflection behind you, plus the floors are the kind that let miles of computer wire go underneath them, so you almost always hear someone coming behind you. OK, I didn't mean to be cynical. The real reason for my post was another thing that just happened to me. As people form lines to the cash register in our little work coffee shop, I let a woman who was obviously "behind" me in the queue go ahead of me to get in line. It was close, but no one would have given it a second thought if I were to have gotten in line first. Well, I got up to pay and the cashier said, "She paid for it", nodding to the woman I let in front of me. I looked surprised and thanked the woman and she said, "Just because ...". That made my morning.An8el wrote:Some women can feel it is a sexist and belittling gesture from a man who opens doors for them; it implies that women are generally so helpless that they need such favors ...
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