W/O: a Scanner mind vs the body it lives in

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W/O: a Scanner mind vs the body it lives in

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(sorry I don't really know how to do this, but will mimic other threads)

Wish: To pursue my many, many interests.

Obstacle: My health. I am disabled.

Dilemma:

should i spend all my very, very limited resources of energy and health and ability, and limited resources of time, money, etc, on medical projects i hate, so that then i can be well enough to be able to do things i want and love?
and if so how do i make myself do that?

or should i divide my tiny resources amongst medical projects and what i love, rewarding myself for accomplishing medical stuff with enjoyable stuff? and if so very possibly not have enough resources for medical projects to actually achieve any improvement in my health, and in that case never have enough resources to do the things i want more than a tiny bit?

and should i take the possibility of helping others with my medical projects in to account - should i force myself to do things i don't want to do in order to help others as well as myself? how do i do that?

am i being forced by chance, fate, circumstance, or some kind of being, to accept a singular life purpose that i do not want? a scanner squeezed by immense pressure from all sides into a diver's mould? and if so how do i accept that? how do I do it?

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You didn't say what your health projects are, and you don't have to. My preference would be all three - work on your health projects, save some time and money for fun, and do a little to help others.

I assume that the health projects are something like physical therapy, or exercise and diet, or acupuncture, or chemical infusion therrapy, and maybe you're keeping a record of your progress with your regimen.

I hope you're getting some support from friends and family. It sounds as if you have some serious challenges. I wish you well.
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Dear k8k8,
Greetings. Reading your post echoed with one of my problems, how to divide the limited energy between have to dos, want to dos and can dos?
After reading Barbara Sher's Refuse to Choose , I understood that I can do everything.
In my personal experience, if you do things by pressure, it may well achieve things, but in the long run it takes a toll on physical and mental health. To do everything you love, your duties and desires, your inner being MUST be free and joyful.
Just calm yourself and think again whether you must do all you have to do. If you aren't sure good books can help. I recommend Christine Arylo's 'Choosing ME before We'.
If you are calm and happy, most of the physical ailments may disappear.
About time, my suggestion is do everything you want to do a little everyday. Great buildings are built by arranging small bricks. In time, you will gradually start doing more.
God Bless You.
Well wishing,
Lalitha.

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Exactly, Lalitha,

You can't do it all at once, but you can do a little bit. Maybe a little each day. You can be a serial scanner - one goal at a time, or a little time spent on several goals. How you do it is up to you. We're all different.
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Hi Elaine,
I went to the FB group 'Scanner Look What I have Made'. When I saw that group I understood I have found my niche. I joined that group.
Actually I was fussing about not executing my daily plans and its consequences of piled up to-do projects. But now, I'm progressing little by little.
Last week, I baked a chocolate cake, made a three oil soap, a small cardboard cellphone holder for charging, drew a pencil sketch of a horse. This is a very small achievement compared to my plans. Though I'm limping I'm moving.
Thank You for the FB group.
Lalitha. :)

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Not a small achievement at all, Lalitha, That's a very impressive list of accomplishments. And it's so scanner - at its very best - showing all the things you can do.

Please enjoy everything you are doing. I'm glad you found your niche.
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Hi Elaine,
Thank you for your encouragement. How your writing is going? What about your garden? Where do you get inspiration for writing?
I have always wanted to ask this question to a writer. When you get an inspiration to write, [example fiction], how do you decide in which form you would write it, that is a novel or a short story, first person view or a third person view and what features you would stress more; incidents or character. Two days ago, I read two books. Both are thrillers, but completely different stress themes. First, Jonathan Stroud's 'Whispering Skull' and the second M.C. Beaton's 'Vicious Vet'. When the first one gave prominence to the incidents, the second one stressed Agatha Raisin's character. Both I liked.
Eager to hear,
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Hi, Lalitha,

I love Agatha Raisin. I haven't read them all, but I've loved every one I've come across.

I get my inspiration from real life. Things happen. In the news, to me, to my friends, and something speaks and it turns into a book. Here on the Barbara Sher boards, i was making comments as my dog Molly, who was serving on a jury. Square Peg answered as Shadow, his black lab. Shadow said he could carry two balls in his mouth at the same time, and was wondering if they could use a dog who could carry two balls in his mouth at the same time down at the court house. That turned into a story where Shadow made the game-winning save that gave the Boston Red Sox their Championship win. (That was really fun. "The Molly Chronicle" was self-published and it's on Amazon. )

Regarding Point of View. A murder mystery almost has to be written in first person, or from the perspective of one person. What I'm working on has to be written in a third person omnipotent point of view because I want to get into the minds of many of my characters. I think first person, present tense, is immediate, and captures the reader's attention better than anything else. In the end, it's what the writer feels like writing. I do have a friend who wrote a book, and then re-wrote it from the point of view of a different character.
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Hi Elaine,
Thank you for the reply.It was interesting. One day I'll read Molly's Chronicles.
April 14 our Tamil New Year comes. Now my hands are full with many duties. I may not be active in this forum for a week.
See You,
Lalitha.

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Be careful, Lalitha, I think the guy posting about a female escort service, and a company that will type your term paper for you is a hacker. Don't open his links. His posts are on "Wishes and Obstacles." And on becoming Writers and speakers.
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If a user has only one post or a few posts of a generic nature, I assume that the user is a scammer.

A generic post might be, "I really like what you wrote."

But even links posted by an experienced user should be treated with caution. For example, someone might trick me into sharing a link to malicious site.

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Better to never click on links. We do not vet them for viruses/malware etc. If, at any time, you see a post that is a spammer in nature, please notify a moderator of the board. We are not always on the board everyday and strive to keep it on course.

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I think Tituba deleted the person and the posts. The posts advertised a service that would write your term paper for you, and another that advertised a female escort service. Sorry, i don't remember the user's name.
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