Building your community

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Re: Building your community

Postby Elaine Glimme » Sat Nov 24, 2018 11:10 am

Hi, Steffie,

Welcome to the Boards.
I liked Barbara's description of taking a walk, sitting at picnic tables and playing guitars and drinking beer. What a great way to get to know your neighbors.
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Re: Building your community

Postby BarbaraSher » Sat Nov 24, 2018 11:56 am

We had a belated Thanksgiving dinner at my place tonight, thanks to my son and his girlfriend. The food was fantastic! When we were done, drinking coffee and nibbling on some fabulous pumpkin pie, talk swung to this subject: "Building your community."

One woman talked about how she came back to her home town after going to college in Holland, and all her earlier friends had moved, so she didn't know anyone. But she found a group called 'New in Bonn,' which is where she lived. She met them and many were very nice and a few turned into really good friends! We think there might be a "New in Saarbrucken" group here too, and I think Steffie is going to try to look them up. Based on the same idea: people who had moved to this town be-cause they got jobs or were attending (or teaching at) the university.

I don't think it's the kind of thing you can do in New York because half the population in NY is new. :-) but one of the guests tonight has a group of friends from Norway who recently moved to NY and she says they're very good nice people and I would like them. I wouldn't mind meeting some new people too, once I'm back in Manhattan. I was always too busy working or traveling to do much socialising when I lived there but I'm not going to be traveling much from now on with my recent back trouble. Maybe I'll start having little dinner parties. (I've never done that but tonight was really nice!)
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Re: Building your community

Postby BarbaraSher » Sat Nov 24, 2018 12:00 pm

There were loads of good ideas, but one that really seemed good came up because someone said she'd really like to find a group that wouldn't be afraid of talking about feelings or dealing with emotions (since she's a bit lonely sometimes and can occasionally feel emotional). "Find a branch of 'Non-violent Communication!' someone suggested. "They talk about emotion-based themes and there are lots of interesting people there."

That seemed like a really good idea and I think that organization is very wide-spread, both here in Europe and in the states. Does anyone know anything about that organization?
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Re: Building your community

Postby Steffie » Sat Nov 24, 2018 2:30 pm

I gonna find out about a group in Germany called Singing hospitals. They have workshops and support people by concerts and visits in hospitals. That combines a lot of good things.That sounds really good to me. This group started in Baden-Württemberg, Germany. I was told today that there are several groups all over Germany nowadays.
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Re: Building your community

Postby Steffie » Sat Nov 24, 2018 3:28 pm

I checked the webside of new in saarbruecken. It sounds very interesting.
There are many opportunities I know about going to meetings. But I realized that I have to get more structure. I forget about the meetings when I just get the information that it is every 2. tuesday every month for example. As long as I didn´t write it down into my calendar with the exact time and date it takes place I forget about it. So, the first thing to do is getting a new calendar for fixing the dates. That will help me with my structure. Not to start too much and loosing interest is also important for me. And I have to go to a meeting several times to connect and get involved.
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Re: Building your community

Postby BarbaraSher » Sat Nov 24, 2018 3:51 pm

Singing Hospitals? Sounds great! We got a lot of great ideas tonight.
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Re: Building your community

Postby BarbaraSher » Sun Nov 25, 2018 10:12 am

Steffie wrote:I checked the webside of new in saarbruecken. It sounds very interesting.
There are many opportunities I know about going to meetings. But I realized that I have to get more structure. I forget about the meetings when I just get the information that it is every 2. tuesday every month for example. As long as I didn´t write it down into my calendar with the exact time and date it takes place I forget about it. So, the first thing to do is getting a new calendar for fixing the dates. That will help me with my structure. Not to start too much and loosing interest is also important for me. And I have to go to a meeting several times to connect and get involved.


These are things we all have to remember. When you're on your own you can forget so easily, and no one will remind you. Coming up with ways to remind ourselves is a good idea!
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Re: Building your community

Postby SquarePeg » Mon Nov 26, 2018 8:13 pm

Well, I recently joined a Buddhist organization. We meet once a week at a member's home to either chant, discuss an article, share an experience or talk about other members' needs.

I used to be active in a professional organization.

The real problem I have is that my wife is disabled, which puts a burden on me. Plus my job has gotten more demanding and my health is declining, so I;m cutting way back on activity, both in real life and online. For example, my latest blog post was published in September. I used to contribute to two blogs, plus "do" NaBloPoMo every November.
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Re: Building your community

Postby Elaine Glimme » Tue Nov 27, 2018 10:28 am

Hi, Steffie, I hope you find a good way to connect with people. If you skip a meeting make sure you just go to the next one.

Hi, Square Peg, I hope you and your wife doing okay in spite of challenges, and I hope your job is still as enjoyable as it was a year ???? ago.

Hi, Barbara, I love your comments about singing at the hospitals. You make friends with the group you sing with, and I'll bet a year later someone comes up to and says, "You sang to me back when I was in the hospital. That meant so much to me." A win-win.
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Re: Building your community

Postby BarbaraSher » Tue Nov 27, 2018 1:00 pm

:-)

Thanks, Elaine.
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Re: Building your community

Postby elarue » Mon Jan 14, 2019 2:27 pm

BarbaraSher wrote:I'm ready to start a team right here - anyone who sees and wants to change the problem should definitely join - designed to share ways to rebuild those communities we one had. These are the communities that disappeared when friends or family died or moved far away, when relationships ended or jobs ended, that sort of thing.


I'd be happy to be involved in that sort of effort! I definitely have the same problem as I've moved around quite a bit since I got married.
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Re: Building your community

Postby Ciska » Mon Jan 21, 2019 3:00 am

Hello everyone,

not sure if it has been mentioned already but there are tons of groups on 'meet up' (https://www.meetup.com) where you can meet people.
It's all sorts of interests - hiking meet-ups, women meet-ups, dog walking meet-ups, writer meet-ups, board game meet-ups.... The list is endless.

Have fun :D !
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Re: Building your community

Postby inspiresuccess » Wed May 08, 2019 10:04 pm

I want to pull this up in the active threads so I can come back and read it. Looks interesting.
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