Structure & Isolation

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Structure & Isolation

Postby Tituba » Mon Dec 31, 2012 2:19 am

"Add all that freedom you have when you’re isolated and you’re heading for problems. A happy life needs some structure and accountability. By that I mean that at some predictable time of day, on a regular basis, you should be expected to show up somewhere. Someone should be waiting for you to arrive. Humans need that. Too much freedom makes life shapeless. Unending choice means that every day you have to wake up and decide what you want to do. We’re not designed for that.

At least a minimum of necessity, some ongoing obligations and predictable appointments are necessary to give us a sense of direction and keep us energetic and focused. While no one wants to be suffocated by these things, we can’t tear them entirely out of our lives without becoming disoriented, and feeling overwhelmed. They provide essential nutrients that keep social animals active and engaged with life.



That’s why affirmations and positive thinking aren’t enough: they’re too isolated. And you can forget looking in the mirror and saying you love yourself. When you’re feeling bad, you just don’t, and you know it. Get dressed, make some appointments, and show up. You’ll feel your internal engine turn on and your soul shift back into gear.Needing people, structure and accountability is not a weakness any more than needing food and sleep. Humans aren’t designed to be isolated. We weren’t hatched from an egg like snakes. We all started out in someone’s arms, discovering who we were by looking into someone’s eyes.

Get dressed, make some appointments, and show up. You’ll feel your internal engine turn on and your soul shift back into gear."

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Postby Tituba » Mon Dec 31, 2012 2:43 am

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