Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

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Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby tailormum » Sat Jan 25, 2014 1:58 pm

I'll introduce myself in a minute, but first I have to ask, what has happened to this board???

This board used to be busy, a few years back I mean. I can't remember my username back then, but yeah, what on earth happened to the traffic flow?

So anyways, regardless of how few people seem to be on here, maybe one more person (me) can help make this place a little more alive...

I'm Lily, a 28 year old stay-at-home mother of three children ranging in age from 16 weeks old to 8 years old. I'm a scanner (duh!) engaged to a scanner (who to my frustrating attempts WON'T read Refuse to Choose - like I've explained to him that it could help him REALLY help him!). His interests (read obsessions): involve antique firearms, sailing, Harris Tweed, men's Fashion from 1880s-1930s, blacksmithing, sculpturing and painting. But then I'm not here to talk about him am I? I'm supposed to be introducing myself. :roll:

I am 28, a mother, I am also as my name suggests, a tailor, or someone who is setting up a business in tailoring men's wear (suits, blueys, etc...) anyway. So I'm not there yet, but am on my way there. I, like my partner have many interests (read obsessions), but I think perhaps my list of obsessions are more than his. I'm not sure yet what type of scanner I am, despite having pondered and wrangled with this struggle of identity for over 7 years (or since I read Barbara's book Refuse to Choose). I think I may be a serial specialist combined with a serial master and a Sybil. Every few years I find an area of interest that I have to master and live and breathe and do until I understand and know to death. But I also have my interests that I must master (to competency) and then I move on to the next thing. And then I have those interests that I come back to over and over and over again.

I'm currently trying to restrict myself to these obsessions, for the next 6 months anyway: my tailoring business (which is a long-term project talking around 6 years or so); drawing portraights (fine graphite), painting and whatever various other household projects I get into (my Sybil interests); embroidery (2 projects at the moment), crocheting a queen-size quilt, and reading from one of my obsession categories (human biology, human starvation, art and art forgery, brain-stuff, anything on sewing/tailoring/history of men's wear, and so on and so forth); and learning Gaelic and the Irish tin whistle (serial master). My last reading obsession category was anything on pregnancy, and I ended up collecting (and reading obsessively) a total of 22 pregnancy books. I would have read and collected more books on pregnancy, but the bookshops didn't have any more books on the subject. This is despite me having already having two children prior to my littlest one, as many people have chuckled when they've seen my pregnancy book collection. :oops:

I'm one of those weird people who have to have a number of interests/passions going at the same time, otherwise I end up doing nothing and get very stagnated. I've had so many people tell me to do just one thing, or that if I picked just one thing and did it for the rest of my life that I would be a world expert and be very very rich by now. But as we know on here, that is impossible.

Anyways, I'm on here to get some support, give some support, and document my journey so to speak, as I am apt at times to feel quite discouraged about being a scanner and the sometimes scorn I face about this even sometimes by other scanners (who don't realize that they indeed are scanners too and instead have bought into the specialist way of looking at things). Have to go now as my partner is up and I have to put on some porridge.

G'day and Cheerios one and all.
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby coachcharlotta » Sun Jan 26, 2014 12:01 am

Hi Tailormum,

Wow, having a 16 weeks old and starting a business (and doing a whole bunch of other things :)) isn't easy. I've been there myself. (I insisted to start a business when my third one was born, but that's also all I did.) The business at that time was web design. (Now I'm a coach. :))

I've been aware of this forum for a few years, but I haven't posted anything before because I honestly didn't find a way to get notifications before. If it really used to be more active, perhaps it's got something to do with not being the most modern. It's easy to get the impression just from glancing at it that it's been abandoned. Anyway.

Good luck with your tailoring business!
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby Tituba » Sun Jan 26, 2014 9:15 am

To answer your question, most people who are serious about changing their lives, are now on

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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby tailormum » Tue Jan 28, 2014 4:04 pm

Thank you both for your replies!

And thank you Tituba for the link, I was wondering where everyone had gone. I'll have to join up once I get the funds together. Look very worthwhile.

Coachcharlotta, how old are your kids? What sort of coach are you? In web design? Sorry for all the questions lol.

I haven't been on here much in the last couple of years, just popped in and out to read posts when I've had access to internet, now I do have access to the internet when my partner isn't using it so am able to be on frequently.
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby Midaila » Fri Jan 31, 2014 2:50 am

Hello Hello, I'm here! At least for every now and then. Nice to see some action,, been also wondering why it's so quiet in here.

I'm 24-years-old seamstress student (going to be my 4th profession), no children, getting married in June. I have plenty of free time but haven't really done much with it until just recently when I really started to organize my goals and priorities.

I'm a mix of Sampler and Sybil, plus some traits from other kinds. Recent listing revealed around 30 goals including, for example, organizing a painting exhibition, studying and making runes, making my own wedding dress, drawing one story in manga form, writing and getting books published and making a music video.

Overall, I like acquiring (mainly) handcraft skills and making single pieces. I really dislike doing anything twice but it's ok to use same skills over and over again.

It was nice hearing from you, Tailormum and coachcharlotta!
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby skannie » Fri Jan 31, 2014 1:15 pm

Hi fellow Scanners! Lots of lovely interests between you :-) Yes these boards are much quieter than they used to be. I can think of several possible reasons, but probably the main one is that newer kinds of social media appeared on the scene i.e. Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn, and being Scanners, we all had to go and try them out, including Barbara.

Twitter was very exciting for a while, with regular idea parties, but that died down too, except for a big #ideaparty every new year’s eve. I think Facebook currently has more Scanner action, and there are some interesting Scanner Tribe discussions on LinkedIn. And of course Barbara’s Club, as Tituba mentioned, which has a free ongoing idea party as well as the paid-for Hanging Out members' section.

It’s rather like when a new club or pub opens, and everyone flocks to it, and the old regular place gets forgotten. But after a while the novelty wears off and people start remembering what was special about the old place and going back there. I still think a forum is the best place for in-depth discussions and building up an archive of ideas and information. So hopefully we can revitalise this one.

No I wouldn't agree with you, Charlotta, that these boards aren't the most modern. They are made from phpBB, which is currently the best and most frequently used open source bulletin board software. And they definitely haven't been abandoned. As you can see, you got an answer from Tituba very quickly. She and others work hard behind the scenes kicking out the spammers and dealing with other kinds of problems.

But it might look that way to you because they haven’t been tarted up with graphics and logos and pretty colours, which could be done if Barbara decided it was important enough. But she's a Scanner too and has lots of other things on her mind ;-)
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby skannie » Fri Jan 31, 2014 1:25 pm

tailormum wrote:So anyways, regardless of how few people seem to be on here, maybe one more person (me) can help make this place a little more alive...
I like your attitude, tailormum 8) 8) 8)
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby coachcharlotta » Mon Feb 03, 2014 6:16 am

tailormum wrote:Coachcharlotta, how old are your kids? What sort of coach are you? In web design? Sorry for all the questions lol.


Lily, my kids are soon 3, 6, and 9 (all born in February). Almost the same age span as yours. No, I'm not a web design coach. :) I've been coaching people who want to figure out what they want to do when they grow up and people who want to start a business. But I'm thinking about starting to have marketing as a focus ...
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby coachcharlotta » Mon Feb 03, 2014 6:22 am

skannie wrote:Yes these boards are much quieter than they used to be. I can think of several possible reasons, but probably the main one is that newer kinds of social media appeared on the scene i.e. Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn, and being Scanners, we all had to go and try them out, including Barbara.


Skannie, you seem to have your ear to the ground when it comes to where scanners and other Barbara Sher peeps hang out online. I know that Tituba mentioned Barbara's Club, but there are so many payed membership sites that I have to choose which ones I jump on. Where would you say is the best place to "hang out" for free? ;)
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby Tituba » Mon Feb 03, 2014 6:44 am

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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby skannie » Fri Feb 07, 2014 8:14 pm

Hi coachcharlotta,

Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter are all free. I can't say which is best because they are all different, and the action moves from one to the other at different times. Just try them all and see which you prefer.

If you are on LinkedIn, the professional networking site, you can search for my Scanner Tribe group and join it.

Facebook is usually lively. I suggest you start by liking Barbara Sher's page https://www.facebook.com/pages/Barbara- ... ?ref=br_tf

and my Scanner Tribe page https://www.facebook.com/scannertribe (not a lot happening there right now)

then apply to join my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/88437140171/

There's a good crowd of scanners there, and active discussions. But I don't automatically approve all applicants. If I don't already know you, or don't recognise your username, I'll look at your FB profile for some evidence that you're a Scanner, and that you know we're not talking about scanning devices, and that you are not joining just to promote some cause or product.

I usually don't reject people outright, but check again now and again to see if they've added any relevant Scannery stuff. Or if you're waiting a long time you could send me a private message here and I'll let you in.

I'm at @ScannerTribe on Twitter but haven't been very active there recently except for the New Year idea party. You can follow me there, and the list of people I follow is mostly scanners, so you can look through it and find some interesting and active people to follow. Barbara is on Twitter too @BarbaraSher

I have another Twitter account, but I'm mostly using it to follow my own interests now.
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby skannie » Fri Feb 07, 2014 8:16 pm

Soul Pancake looks like an interesting site, Tituba. Never heard of it before.

But you know, we could have discussions like that here if people would post some topic headers similar to those to start us off. Maybe in Deep (or Shallow) Discussions, or whichever forum is relevant.
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby Tituba » Sat Feb 08, 2014 12:02 am

skannie - if only they would. I've tried an on numerous occasions to post topics that normally would start conversations. No one seems interested in talking about anything other than their daily activities (what they ate, exercised or dated). Gone are the days when they posted wish/obstacles and contributed towards promoting dreams. It is a shame.
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby Scenario Thinker » Sat Feb 08, 2014 11:37 am

Don't forget all the lively digressions we had when the board was more busy on politics, stolen elections, evolution, pseudo science, climate change, and more recently (meaning over a year ago) on gun control.

I think to really get this board going again, Barbara would need to lead discussions and stick to the spirit of the board. She is the beloved author, speaker/retreat leader, and resistance whisperer who people would gravitate to.

The people who post their running mileage (me) and other discussions are just a sliver of the potential of people who could be on here discussing goals and dreams, and wouldn't even be noticed if the boards operated that way. In other words, I wouldn't blame that small piece for not following the theme, it's a lot bigger (or different) of an issue than that. There are potentially tons of people who aren't even here! (or don't stick around long).

My 2¢.
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Re: Hello Hello, is anyone out there?

Postby Unity1 » Sat Feb 08, 2014 12:31 pm

For my personal observations, it was as ST said, the challenges were a small part of the site for a long time and we'd also use the rest of the board too. That's how I got to know a lot of new people from wishes/obstacles and all the other sub forums.

What I must state is that a number of people over the years, some new to the site, some regulars, contacted me to say they could not return because of the insensitive replies. Given that a lot were lurkers and finally plucked up the courage to post, this is not good.

I don't remember this kind of thing when I first joined, it was great then, buzzing with interest. Then the numbers started dwindling and it was mainly the challenge users left. And we did share ideas, wishes, obstacles etc but usually in our own threads because there was hardly any movement in the rest of the board.
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