So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby BarbaraSher » Tue Aug 25, 2015 12:46 pm

I'm reading your posts and I'm deeply moved and happy, dear Now I Know.

Please tell us where your Facebook pages are so we can visit them. I want to know how you're doing. You've given us all a great gift with these posts you've put up here. The real success of a real Scanner is spelled out so beautifully, I want to share it with the world.
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby BarbaraSher » Tue Aug 25, 2015 2:21 pm

I went over to your Facebook page, NowIKnow and it's beautiful. But I see no more entries since the date of your last entry here. I hope that's because you just didn't feel like writing in the journal anymore. As you said, if it stopped being fun to do, you would stop doing it. I just want to make sure all is still going well with you.

Your drawing on your Facebook page is beautiful, full of dreams and fantasy. I'd love to see more.
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby emspace » Fri Aug 28, 2015 3:11 pm

NowIKnow: I hope you’re still doing well with your Scanner life! Please update us if you’re back!
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Thu Sep 03, 2015 1:17 am

Dear Barbara
Dear emspace

Thank you so much for your comment, I’m so glad to hear how you feel about my posting. All of that was the result of your super power that has saved scanner people. The “not-knowing” that one is a scanner could be really dangerous. I was really excited then as for me the discovery was a miraculous moment experience.

Time passed so fast for a scanner’s life, a happy life. I could not believe it’s been a year now.
I re-read my posting again and I’m glad I recorded my feeling, it was a strong/significant feeling I didn’t want to forget the detail. The scanner person in me compelled me to write it.

I will be honored if you would like to share them. I would love to continue to write about it. I have not updated the facebook page because as you said I got excited about something else as a scanner. I guess I was distracted by other excitements so I stopped writing. But deep inside I know this discovery is an experience worth recording. After all it is a life-saving one.

Thank for checking whether things is going well with me. It is indeed. I’m just like the person in candy store who now know how to eat candy. And there are thousand candies in the store. I’m 43 but I feel like I’m just really living my life for only 1 year over. So many things to explore now it is guilt-free. I just went from one interesting thing to another only to learn how, not to finish it, and only for the period of time that I feel like doing. There is no mental-force to continue after the excitement was gone.

The result then has been the chain of excitements and contents. Which I interpret it as happiness. I could never say enough thank you to you.
I can’t believe the kind of life I have right now, the unfinished projects lying around and I love them all and feel happy to see them. It used to be so painful to look at them. I did lots of drawing in many of my scanner day books. I think I’m just going to put the work “Scanner day book” and upload them on the face book page.
You inspire me to get my face book page updated.

Thanks again and hope to communicate more here and via my facebook.

All the best,
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby BarbaraSher » Sat Sep 05, 2015 8:00 am

I'm so glad to see you here again, NowIKnow :-) It's wonderful to read what you've written. Your post has me grinning ear to ear.

I'm running a Scanner weekend in Frankfurt the last week of this month, and I'm thinking of telling them your story. I think it will give many people the courage to do what you have done.

I have a couple of new videos up on YouTube about Scanners. Maybe you'd like to see them. Let me go get the link.
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby BarbaraSher » Sat Sep 05, 2015 8:17 am

Here it is: http://bit.ly/1NYM1UT (about 10 or 15 minutes long)


And here are some funny, short ones I did in Berlin a few years ago (I love to hear Scanners laugh):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0PFcndLrDDg

and

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McV_138Pfms

(I really have to get the link to the weekend workshop in here. Don't go away.)
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Thu Sep 10, 2015 1:47 am

Dear Barbara,

Thank you so very much for your reply and links. I watched them and they are wonderful. It’s refreshing to hear the truth about Scanner. I will definitely follow up watching the following series. You look great, healthy and energetic in the youtube clip. Congratulations.

Your prologue in Refuse to Choose book made me laugh in agreement when I first read it. It was so me back then and I thought I was weird and I should not tell anyone how I felt about my faculty course catalogues. Nowadays I’m still excited when I read the books catalogue. This is how a Scanner like me could wander in the bookstore for 6 hours, getting excited with the books, especially those with title“how to” and “ the making of” book section.

The undiagnosed Scanner situation is quite a dangerous stage of Scanner life. I’ve lived through it for 42 years and know well the pains it has caused. All my energies and positivity were drained by it. I agree with you that the undiagnosed scanner need to be rescued. Look at me now I feel lucky I have lived long enough to learn about Scanner concept and finally start living my life for real. I hope everyone is as lucky as I am in discovering your book. My situation is a miraculous one, your book is not available in my country (a non-English speaking country). I work for the international organization and the expat carried the book around the world and the book ended up with me because I’m destined to survive. I can’t imagine what my life would be if I don’t get to read this book. I’m lucky that I have enough language ability to read your book. I feel like some of Thai person I introduced your book feel intimidated to read an English language book.

The facebook account I’m most being active with is about art and craft. I came across many of my Thai facebook friends who complained about having too many interests. I heard their frustrations. When I tried to talk about scanner concept they didn’t quite get it. I have posted your book cover in the handicraft website in Thai and facebook but so far no one but me seems to know about it. It is painful to see them struggling.

It’s a totally different perspective of life right now for me. No more being awake at night and staring outside the window at 3 am wondering when the suffering will end. Every day is a joy of learning. Before this I think in order to be happy I have to show my finished product to the world, only that with their recognition I will then be happy. Now I can be happy just simply knowing how such thing is made. I’m already happy taking journey with the project and will finish it only if I’m happy finishing it, otherwise, learning is enough.

I do feel like a bird being released from the cage, though I could fly everywhere freely now but I still need some practice and guidance on direction. The caged bird didn’t practice much about the sky before. I saw your clip and youtube and I realize that I have to re-read your book from time to time. You are right that Scanner not just live in a moment but we could not get out of the moment either. Yes we think we will die next Thursday and it won’t be enough time to learn Chinese and violin, etc. That is a Scanner’s feeling I encounter a lots. Each morning before going to work I will look at each unfinished project (which still holds my interest) thinking that I wish I would have time to work on them and feel sad that I have to leave to the office. Your suggestion to use calendar is great. Even though it’s not so bad for me as I now know that I just want to get at those things as long as I’m interested and don’t have to finish it.

You have saved me and people around me too. I’m being able to take the other’s comment better right now since I’m now having a healthy core value of myself. Before I acted as those who is self-doubted and used to be sensitive with people saying something about my piece of art. Nowadays, I’m done since I finished learning how to do it. If people like the product is just a plus, if not it’s fine. Many people who did a handicraft sometimes suffer with people’s comment about their piece of craft when they show it. I hope they could find the inner peace by telling themselves that it is already a happiness knowing and working on it. If they are being content and embrace their self-worth they don’t need to prove to the world that they are worth something. I know that I’m able to generate happiness for myself and don’t need to rely on the others to make me happy (but if they do it’s a plus and it’s great). I think it’s a blessing for a Scanner but only if they know they are a Scanner.

Thanks again to you for my new life. I will try to update this journal as much as I could.
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby BarbaraSher » Thu Sep 10, 2015 4:21 am

:-) This morning started out full of problems and even a little gloomy due to some news I got from a friend.

Then I read your post here, NowIKnow, and everything changed. The problems are easy to solve (I would have know that if I weren't feeling gloomy) and I think my friend will be okay after all, much sooner than it seemed. (I can feel myself smiling as I type this.)

It's so helpful that you have the patience and ability to be analytical. For so long I've wondered about the details of the lives of those who wrote and thanked me for providing Refuse to Choose. It felt great to know the book made a difference, but I didn't quite know how a life had changed or what replaced it.

Please don't feel you have to write for our sake, however. What's already here is fantastic. Hearing about anything new would be a delight, of course, but only do it if it's enjoyable for you. You have the formula in your bones now, I'm deeply pleased to say. Trust your feelings.

I wrote you because I was concerned that perhaps you had run into problems (not at all uncommon) and I wanted to be available to help. But I see you're doing very well and that makes me very happy.

Carry on, fellow Scanner!
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Fri Sep 11, 2015 10:08 pm

Scanner life journal #4

:D Wow, your reply made me so happy. I didn't mention before that everytime I got your reply I felt so honored and happy I smile all day :D It feel great to hear from you.

I'm glad my message could help make thing easy for you. I hope I am the evidence that the book really made a big difference. I pray for your happiness everyday with gratitude since you gave me my happiness and i hope you could remember that each day someone feel thankful for your contribution of wisdom. Life is about everyday and feeling thankful is not a one time thing. :D


I'm surprised that not many people told you what their life are like after it has become different for them. My only guess is that they were unchained and ran free and wild to do what they love. The Scanner's life is easily occupied and we focus of what we want to learn so ourself is not quite as important. I'm glad my input could be useful to what you have been wondering. :o


I think it might be that because I'm an Asian, we tend to think a lot about what we are in the food chain sometime since the government doesn't take care of us much (and social status helped). I think Asian culture also suppress Scanner a lot as we are kind of society which take a lot notices on each other thus creates lots of pressure about being normal and being successful. Parents encourage humble so they never told kids that kids are good enough, in fear that kids will be too proud. To be oneself is not being encouraged, the harmony of society and social acceptance is important to the whole family and not it's just about yourself, regardless how old of you. I could go on and on with Asian pressure. I love to observe culture and to see how the society function. :o

As a consequence, When I'm free from not knowing what happen to me (why I could not stick with one interest), this issue is a very important issue for my life. The change is so fascinating. I had been searching for meaning of life and now I know that it is to know one's true identity. I was supposed to be happy the way I feel now with the charactor I was born with, but my happiness was blocked by misleading society standard that only the specialist is worth a human. Sometime I regret my lost forty-two years very much but nothing I can do about it now I just have to let go. :)


I enjoy writing this so much, thank you for your kind mentioning that I should write if only I enjoy it :D . I'm just afriad I might talk too much. In the past year I was afraid also that I might have written something with the Asian attutude/view that could be strange in the eyes of westerner or even offensive. If that the case it was never my intention to offen anyone since I love this society so much. My achievement is to be able to tell my story and I have no need to gain anything else out of doing this. :)


In my last couple of posts I was a bit describing my thought in general. I found myself repeating many things out of my impression. I could be more specific now about my life. After my celebration of knowing I'm a scanner as I told last year (enjoy life, going out). Then many actions were taken to clear my condo unit and organize my life. Life goes on with good and bad but there is clearly a change in each of my reponse to the incident i.e. my partner was sick and was admitted to the hosptial with a flu when he visited me here, that's was worrisome. But I felt differently handling the situation than when it happened before.


I remember that then I was so excited about the Scanner concept I told everyone I knew about this book and how it changed my life. Ofcourse they didn't understand. Some feel happy for me but some think I joined the cult as I'm so excited about this. I spotted people who have same problem I had, a potential Scanner. However, I used to take presentation class and it taught me that the first two minutes of the presentation I have to establish credibility, give the audience the reason why they should listen to what I will say in the next hour and how it would work. I guess in this case my friends just did't know why they should think I'm correct about them could not stick with one interest. They think they have other problems which caused them that. I talked a lot about your book to most everyone as an annoucement of my newself. :D


Then I just live a scanner life without holding back. My youtube consumption went up three times more than before. No more "what's a point for watching all these how-to clip?" I indulged in learning. I tried to prioritized my interests among drawing, greeting card pop up card making, painting, period costume, reading, traveling, gardening, foreign language, martial art, gym exercise,flower arrangment, meditation, Zen teaching, history, writing, fairy tale, Thai traditional craft and lots more. I know I'm interested in history and in ancient people's daily life aspect (not political aspect in a history for one thing), their art and the way they lived, how they decorated themself/fashion. I wanted to see it in 3D and not just 2D drawing and paiting. I found myself spending time in making and decorating dolls witih the national costumes, period costumes and history concept doll. I only finished a few of them enough for taking photo to put on facebook. I didn't take photo of unfinished projects which are a lot more. But I'm happy with both finished and unfinished projects, it felt great. :D


I'm able to let go many things now. It's eased up the situation in my office with my colleagues. I started to make joke about myself. It was difficult to people around me before when I was so sensitive out of the lack of self-worth. When people was joking about me before (as it also happened to everyone else from time to time) I was so sorry for myself and felt like my life was alrady bad (not knowing why I could not stick with one interest) and now they made it worst. I acted as if it was a saddest thing happen to me. Now I'm quite sure of myself and content, when people was joking about something I could even say "that's about right about me" "that's me" and laughed at it. That's a big pleasant change. :D


It has effect on everything when my core value is clear and as a result my response to a situation comparing to the similar situation before I read the book is noticably different. I have also been able to organize my personal documents which need a stable mind to do so. I stay home a lot and just happy spending time with myself. No more costly entertainment out side the house. :D


Thanks again for the opprotunity to write about myself. I'm so happy and enjoy writting this very much.


Thank you,
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Sun Sep 13, 2015 9:42 pm

Scanner life Journal #5

Good morning, :D

I feel like adding some more entry to my journal here (as well as my facebook page). I recently watched a lot of video clip on TED Talks and found many interesting speakers. It could be a great tools to work on your project. :D

I learned from the book that a Scanner day book is the great tool to capture your ideas. When I was young I like to draw picture for hours and hours and finally I could draw quite fast. My Scanner day book is mostly drawing and when looking at them again I could see my idea in the form of picture instead of wordings (or few wordings). The Idea kept popping up in my head like popcorns in a pan, I guess I just happily living my life drawing my scanner day book without making it, only some of it if I want to. I think the happiness of just doing Scanner day book is only when there is no guilty feeling if those ideas will not become a finished product. Also if you could accept it that It doesn’t generate any monetary benefit. :)

In term of product, for me I could show a scanner day book page on my facebook feed so people could enjoy it. It’s already a finished drawing, only not another kind of subsequent art work. For example, I drew the costume for dolls I want to make not knowing when I’m going to have time to make it. I finally put the drawing on facebook feed so it goes to my drawing album. :D

In term of income, as I do my expense record, I found out that though the scanner day book doesn’t generate any income, I spend less on movie, shopping, entertainment, hanging out with friend. I have the income from my good enough level in a good job, so I have saved money doing Scanner’s activity and still be happy. :)
I’m accepting myself as who I am, so I don’t need the expensive brand name cloth to make people accept me. If anyone in my society or work place would judge me for not wearing the expensive brands or expensive car, I could not careless for acceptance from judgmental people like that. Their opinion has no effect on me. 8)

For selecting what to do first among those ideas, I used the tool I learned from some book sometimes ago. What I did was couple of years ago I imagined that I’m at my last hour in my death bed, knowing that I’m weak and going to be gone soon, all business have been taken care of and I don’t owe anyone anything. In that moment, I asked myself what would be the thing I regret I have not done and if I have my strength again what I would do the first thing(beside telling my family and friends that I love them). For me (as a scanner who like something beautiful and am interested in human, miniature, history and fascinating life style), what appeared in my head is that I regret haven’t made the dolls and figurine dress up in the historical period costume. I really want to see it and not a painting nor sculpture I haven’t done. The other ideas was not as exciting as this idea. This’s got me started and I have been enjoying community of dolls/figurine and miniature on facebook since (even that I’m still facing dilemma of which idea to do first among many doll dress drawings, should I do Egyptian dress first or Greek goddess or colonial era dress, of which I could use the same tool in deciding).
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I believe this tool/method works for me in prioritizing the importance or all my idea.

Whishing every Scanner an enjoyable life.

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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby SquarePeg » Tue Sep 15, 2015 11:33 am

Wonderful post, NowIKnow!

Yes, the Scanner Daybook is one of my favorite Barbara Sher ideas. I added a "Scanner Daybook" tag to my blog for those ideas I post about. But I don't publish all my ideas. Instead I leave them in "Draft" mode.

The other aspect of your post that I liked was your "Death Bed" method of prioritizing. I used to do something similar. I would write my own obituary. This was a great way for me to fix a skewed perspective. For example, I've never read an obituary that mentioned the deceased's fancy car or boat.
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Tue Sep 15, 2015 10:56 pm

Scanner life Journal #6

Last Sunday I decorated the figurine dolls with Tutti Fruitti Hat Carmen Miranda style to remind myself to eat more fruit using the second hand doll dress which I modified and fruit miniature. It was much fun. On Monday night my interest shifted to paper art and I enjoyed photo on google Pin interest. Last night I spent an hours on facebook antique Jewelry shop looking at their merchandise inventory, those antique jewelry pieces are so beautiful with rich design, color and form. Very artistic. :D
I’m now looking on the list of people I will make pop up card for. I also saw the cooking recipe which use banana instead of flour in making cookies and pancake, that looks interesting. I think my interest is now turning toward paper engineering art again. If I have time I will draw some of them in Scanner day book, even Scanner day book I will need to find time for it! :D
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Wed Sep 16, 2015 7:45 pm

SquarePeg wrote:Wonderful post, NowIKnow!

Yes, the Scanner Daybook is one of my favorite Barbara Sher ideas. I added a "Scanner Daybook" tag to my blog for those ideas I post about. But I don't publish all my ideas. Instead I leave them in "Draft" mode.

The other aspect of your post that I liked was your "Death Bed" method of prioritizing. I used to do something similar. I would write my own obituary. This was a great way for me to fix a skewed perspective. For example, I've never read an obituary that mentioned the deceased's fancy car or boat.


Dear SquarePeg,

Thank you so muck for reading my post. :D I did it before too, saved my ideas for the future. Later I think if someone would take my ideas and make it happen, I'll will be happy. The ideas kept popping up im my head :lol: and I'll not be able to do it all anyway. If someone could make profit from it, great. Congratulation for your success. :D i.e. I posted number of fairy tale costume designs on my page.
I like it, your are rigth that there is no obituary which would mentioned fancy car or boat, totally agree. It's what is' important be mentioned. Mine could be "a happy person who no one know what he is happy about, one could guess that he is happy about his many interests, he is famous on nothing but demonstarted that he is a happy person" :D


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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby NowIknow » Wed Sep 16, 2015 8:24 pm

Scanner life Journal #7

Yesterday was the day that I was off with my creativity. It was a busy day in the office and I practiced what I learned from TED Talks of this woman speaker Marisa Peer. She said our mind heard what we say all the time, perceived it as what we want and try to arrange what we want If we keep telling ourself that we are bored or hate the stuff we are doing, the mind will help by creating procrastination or feeling which lead to that. So instead of complaining, I have to keep telling myself that I want this thing done, and I love it, I love my job and my cases. It sounds like a lie but she said the mind would hear what we want, with both words and picture in my head. It did make my case less boring and I got things done. I was excited with this experiment.
Let see how long it will last, at least I don’t procrastinate writing this journal today, it easy to say I love writing this.

Then I was in a traffic for an hour in a heavy rain lastnight, my brother is in town and I stay at his hotel room chatting about the past. I went to bed the moment I arrived at the hotel. Scanner would have a day like this too, no time for anything else except good enough job and be with family. :D
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Re: So excited about the newly discovered life as a scanner

Postby BarbaraSher » Sat Sep 19, 2015 5:26 pm

I'm having such a great time reading your posts, NowIKnow. I just saw that you said this:

" I'm just afriad I might talk too much. In the past year I was afraid also that I might have written something with the Asian attutude/view that could be strange in the eyes of westerner or even offensive."

Please let me reassure you that you never write too much and I'm sure you have offended no one. Your writing helps me help other people.

I wish there was a way to get my book into your language so you wouldn't see good people suffer in the same way you did before you realised who you are. I'm almost sure no Thai publishers will be interested in my book (publishers only like to license new books) but if you know of anyone who is a good translator, I think we could put some of the more important excerpts into a blog or some such thing. This is not your job. You are doing just fine and your instincts for being who you were born to be seem to be right on target. I wouldn't interrupt that for the world. But if you should know of someone bi-lingual, perhaps you can send them to me and we can figure something out.
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