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Hello : intro + looking forward to connecting

Postby StellaNYC » Wed Jan 28, 2015 2:26 pm

Hi fellow Scanners!

Just started reading this book last night with the crazy enthusiasm of any scanner, thought that it would sponsor an AHA! Moment and the sea would part and the right answer would come up... Still ... I am stuck between what career to pursue and if I should or not go back to a desk job again. I felt like I never wanted one again but craving the structure and reliable paycheck.

Would love to hear stories if people that have been able to move forward with the insight from the book....

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Re: Hello : intro + looking forward to connecting

Postby Midaila » Thu Jan 29, 2015 12:07 pm

Welcome Stella :)

I've read throught the book few times. It hasn't given me a straight answer to the question "what should I do for a living?" but it has given me a sense of freedom instead. Feeling that I don't have to settle to a career I don't feel good about. It's been a slow but constant progress that first led me to start studying a whole different profession (and even leave my long-term job to fo so) and on my way of starting a home business with the purpose of offering income from multiple fields, skills and interests I have.

What do you do at this point? Desk job or something else? And any idea what you'd want to do for a living? :)
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Re: Hello : intro + looking forward to connecting

Postby Elaine Glimme » Fri Jan 30, 2015 10:52 am

Hi, Midaila,
It sounds as if you're doing some interesting things. Three cheers!

Stella, good wishes to you. About a year ago, some women from Germany posted on the Boards. They were just graduating or had just graduated from University, and they said that in Germany, whatever path you start on, that's it; that's what you'll be for the rest of your life and you can't change your mind later. If you feel comfortable saying, what part of the world do you live in? I assumed it was New York City, since your username is StellaNYC. I've never lived in Germany; it may be true there. In New York City I'm sure people change careers all the time.

I read "Wishcraft." I never read "Refuse to Choose." I had a job that I hated, and I kept that job for fifteen years because I was too afraid of interviewing and never getting another job. In between, I was a teacher, and discovered that I was the worst teacher in the world. Then I realized I had to do something. I quit. But I had savings. I got a job that I didn't like, but it paid the bills. Then I got a job that I loved. I was a hazardous materials specialist. I did something different every day. I went somewhere different every day. I inspected refineries and chemical plants, I inspected auto repair shops and dry cleaners and colleges, and so many other types of businesses. I helped with illegal drug labs and illegal dumping and oil and gasoline spills. I wrote up cases against dumpers. It was perfect. And I believed that I was doing something really useful.

In a lot of ways, it's easier to get a job if you already have one. At least that was true for me. I think a good way to find your true path is to try a job, have work experience and find out what works for you and what doesn't. Also, did you ever read, "What Color is Your Parachute?" It's probably the best book ever written about figuring out what works for you and what doesn't.

I'm sort of answering the questions you asked on a different thread here. Anyway, good wishes.
Elaine Glimme - author - "Temporary Address" and "The Molly Chronicles"
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