Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby emspace » Wed Sep 16, 2015 12:48 pm

Elaine Glimme wrote:I'm familiar with the introvert/extrovert test, and I know there's a question, "what do you do to charge up your battery - be with people or be alone? I think this question is misleading because it doesn't take into consideration what the rest of your day is like.

I score very far on the introvert end of the scale. I feel uncomfortable in most social situations. I'm shy. On most days, I spend approximately 22 hours by myself. But after working at the computer all day, I want to be with people to charge up my batteries. Does that really make me an extrovert? I think not.


Elaine, I know what you mean. I think Introversion/Extroversion is a continuum, but it doesn’t mean either/or.

Perhaps for an Introvert, most of your energy is spent alone, and most of the time, if given the option, you would choose loner activities to group ones. Or smaller groups rather than bigger ones, more familiar people rather than complete strangers.

That doesn’t mean, of course, that you can’t be among people and enjoy yourself, feel energized by the conversation or group activity.

I’m pretty sure I would sit almost in the middle of this continuum, though leaning slightly to Introversion. I love talking with people, even strangers, but sometimes, I just want to be anonymous. I always look forward to big parties and group outings, but sometimes I just want to shut myself up in my apartment for the weekend and ignore email and phone calls.

I’m pretty sure I’m not unique in this way. I’m sure many people are the same, but the popular desire to bucket people into Introvert or Extrovert is intolerant of those who aren’t all of one or the other. It’s the same way I feel about the way people talk about being Right-Brained/Left-Brained (which is completely unscientific nonsense); why is it assumed you can only be one or the other? And why are some people so proud of being in whichever bucket they identify with? It’s a mystery to me!
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby emspace » Thu Oct 29, 2015 5:23 pm

Hi Linda, and welcome! Hope you come back and report how you’re progressing through Refuse To Choose. I’m still picking it up every now and then to remind myself what I can do with myself when I get stuck. :)
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby lora_g » Wed Feb 03, 2016 3:53 pm

That's me, for sure! After working with people in an office all day (putting out fires & spinning plates), all I want to do is go home, curl up with a book or watch Netflix, and not talk to anyone (other than my pets) for hours. I always try to make time "just for me" in the morning before work to read or garden, and then quiet time to decompress after work.

It's actually been a bit of a challenge for me, because most introverts do well in specialist jobs, like a deep-dive into research, programming software, etc, but I get too bored doing those things. So, I've ended up in a job where I'm managing other people who do those things, and sometimes it feels like that makes me very unhappy. After reading Refuse to Choose, I did make the switch to freelance work, and that has helped. If I can keep my projects at around 3-6 months, I'm less likely to get bored (of the other people and the project).

I would love to hear from other Introvert Scanners on how they manage (or don't!) in more traditional workplace settings!
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby elizagard » Thu Feb 04, 2016 11:49 pm

Hi Barbara,

Yes, me. I tested as very introverted as a child (meyer-briggs), but my last test many years ago said that I was half introvert/half extrovert. However, I FEEL much more introverted.

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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby SquarePeg » Fri Feb 05, 2016 12:38 pm

I've wondered whether the MB test alters one's personality temporarily. Perhaps in your case the test itself created a micro-climate of extroversion, especially if taking the test required that you meet with a counselor. Or perhaps you were motivated to self-administer the test when you were experiencing a plateau of extroversion.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby MaryThompson63 » Tue Feb 23, 2016 5:01 am

I am an extreme introvert, INTP by the Myers & Briggs test, and a scanner. Introversion is different than shyness, although a person can be both.

I'd be happy to answer any questions about my experience of either one.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby SquarePeg » Tue Feb 23, 2016 6:21 am

Welcome, Mary! So are you also shy? I am, in certain situations. For example, I don't like to organize meetings at work unless they're training sessions.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby MaryThompson63 » Fri Mar 04, 2016 6:23 pm

SquarePeg wrote:Welcome, Mary! So are you also shy? I am, in certain situations. For example, I don't like to organize meetings at work unless they're training sessions.



I used to be shy to the point it was disabling social anxiety. I finally recognized I had a real problem and sought help and I've been on Zoloft for about 10 years now with fantastic results. Starting Zoloft gave me a life and freedom I had never had before.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby littlewren » Sun May 15, 2016 7:45 pm

Hi Barbara,

I'm a bit late joining this conversation but I am strongly introverted and also a scanner. The main issue for me is finding the energy to pursue all my interests. I find my work (my "good enough job" currently) very draining because it involves dealing with people all day long in a busy environment. After a day/week at work I need lots of downtime to recover. Therefore, although I have many other things I'd love to pursue in my spare time, I feel like my job saps all my energy and doesn't leave a lot left. I'm not sure if it's related to introversion but my health is quite fragile and I find I become burnt out quickly.

I feel quite restricted in terms of how much I can take on and have learnt that I can't cope with working plus study plus volunteering plus socialising etc etc. (not without getting very sick and burnt out anyway). This has been an ongoing issue for me as an introvert and scanner. Often, the spirit is willing and I'm full of ideas but simply don't have the energy I need to pursue them. My solution currently is that I have returned to live at home in order to study and pursue a different career path... this way I can just be a student without also having to worry about working, paying rent and so on. I feel this is the only way I can cope with a big life change without really struggling and making myself stressed out and ill.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby Elaine Glimme » Sun May 15, 2016 8:56 pm

Hi, Littlewren,

I don't know you, but I think you're on the right track. If you're really introverted, a job dealing with people is probably not the best fit for you.

Good luck.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby BarbaraSher » Sun May 15, 2016 10:06 pm

1) I agree with Elaine. You've got a job but it's not a GoodEnoughJob for you. I don't advise you to leave, but perhaps you can find a way to shift it to less interactive tasks if you give it some thought - a little at a time. 2) If your health is fragile you shouldn't be volunteering. Get out of it for a year if possible and see how you feel after that. 3) Ditto socializing. I'm half intro-and half extrovert. I enjoy teaching and speaking but I don't enjoy socializing very much - and I don't do much of it.

I also think it's a good idea to return to school and live at home if that's a possibility for you and your family feels okay about it. That's what some of us families think is a good thing to do.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby SquarePeg » Tue May 17, 2016 10:36 am

Thinking along the same lines as Barbara, with a "shift ... to less interactive tasks" I wonder if you can organize the work day so that the interactive portion takes place early on, saving any solitary work for the last hour of the work day. You might be able to recover during that last hour of solitary work enough so that when you get home you can take on your interests with more vigor.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby La Fenice » Wed Jun 15, 2016 12:19 am

I have always been an introvert and a scanner.
I love doing things on my own and I definitely feel "charged" when I can spend time alone.
I have friends that I truly cherish but this doesn't mean I would enjoy having them around all the time. I like inviting them for dinner, but for example I rarely go out in the evening and the rare times I do, I want to get home early enough to have some time for myself.

I have done a lot of small seasonal jobs and so far my favourite was to work as cook in a small restaurant (in the kitchen there was me and the chef, nobody else). I liked to be appreciated by people but still being "at a distance". Working as waitress was ok but even if the work itself was less heavy than being a cook, it was way more stressful for me.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby cubeconvict » Wed Nov 02, 2016 10:35 am

I'm not an extrovert, but I play one on TV. That is, I can switch and socialize, speak in public, etc. But then I am exhausted afterward. I think that is partly why almost all of the things on my list are solitary activities.
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Re: Do you know any Introvert Scanners?

Postby Elaine Glimme » Mon Nov 14, 2016 12:04 pm

Just found your post. (Great user name, by the way.)

What role do you play?

What you say is why I disagree with the introvert/extrovert tests. There are some people who are "on" for all their waking hours. I think many of them take drugs. But most people need some people time and some down time. I know teachers, priests, and others who deal with people all day, and call themselves introverts because they recharge by being alone. I think anyone who likes/loves a job like that is an extrovert. And of course they want quiet time at the end of the day.
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