Elaine Glimme wrote:I'm familiar with the introvert/extrovert test, and I know there's a question, "what do you do to charge up your battery - be with people or be alone? I think this question is misleading because it doesn't take into consideration what the rest of your day is like.
I score very far on the introvert end of the scale. I feel uncomfortable in most social situations. I'm shy. On most days, I spend approximately 22 hours by myself. But after working at the computer all day, I want to be with people to charge up my batteries. Does that really make me an extrovert? I think not.
Elaine, I know what you mean. I think Introversion/Extroversion is a continuum, but it doesn’t mean either/or.
Perhaps for an Introvert, most of your energy is spent alone, and most of the time, if given the option, you would choose loner activities to group ones. Or smaller groups rather than bigger ones, more familiar people rather than complete strangers.
That doesn’t mean, of course, that you can’t be among people and enjoy yourself, feel energized by the conversation or group activity.
I’m pretty sure I would sit almost in the middle of this continuum, though leaning slightly to Introversion. I love talking with people, even strangers, but sometimes, I just want to be anonymous. I always look forward to big parties and group outings, but sometimes I just want to shut myself up in my apartment for the weekend and ignore email and phone calls.
I’m pretty sure I’m not unique in this way. I’m sure many people are the same, but the popular desire to bucket people into Introvert or Extrovert is intolerant of those who aren’t all of one or the other. It’s the same way I feel about the way people talk about being Right-Brained/Left-Brained (which is completely unscientific nonsense); why is it assumed you can only be one or the other? And why are some people so proud of being in whichever bucket they identify with? It’s a mystery to me!