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Tituba, I had no idea you were a presenter at LANES or that you gave corportate improv workshops! What a revelation to me. That is totally awesome. I am really impressed with all you've done to set up income streams, and I can imagine that both the computer repair and workshops are very lucrative careers indeed. You've shown me and others how great self-employment can be. Thank you.

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I can imagine that both the computer repair and workshops are very lucrative careers indeed. You've shown me and others how great self-employment can be.
Thanks - but all the improv (except for adult ed) has been for free. I wanted to get some corporate testimonials under my belt before I start charging.
it's possible that she also stopped talking because she realizes that this situation is working for you.
That may be. Maybe it is just me reading negativity into silence.

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Tituba wrote:That may be. Maybe it is just me reading negativity into silence.
It would still be nice to get some encouragement. Bottom line is, yes support is good, but it really only matters what you think, not anyone else. You either have to find the people who will support you or stay away from the ones that won't. I know it's still hard when people act like that.
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I received an email today from the Greater Merrimack Valley Human Resources Association. They've asked me to present a workshop to the membership in April, 2010. That will be a great opportunity to network with HR people!

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You're on a serious roll here, Tituba! :D

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Tituba wrote:Ah, man, I know better. Tonight I talked to a good friend of mine about this dream. Why, oh why, did I do that???? Jeez. I've been self-employed for seven years now and for seven years she has continually asked me if I'm looking for a job. Hello, I have a job... Most the time, I've been able to tune her out. Tonight I told her about getting this break doing the improv training for a company. She didn't say a word. Not a word. Not "gee that sounds like a good break" - or even something negative. Not a word. I read disapproval in her silence. Ya know.....those naysayers are everywhere.
Tituba, first let me say I am so thrilled for you to see this continual progress and evolution on your improv dreams and goals! Don't read disapproval in your friend's silence. Instead, know that she is fighting her own Resistance monster! After having similar reactions from friends, I wrote a blog article (How to lose friends and irritate people) about this very thing a while back, which you may find helpful. I observed that people have a vested interest in keeping you the same. If you dare to create goals and attempt to reach them, you make other people think about what's missing in their own lives. They will take out their frustration over their own lives by directing it at you. I quoted passages from Barbara and Steven Pressfield that explain this bizarre phenomenon better than I ever could. The only approval you need is from that person in the mirror. I bet if you look at her and think about all your success in improv, the person you see will be smiling the biggest, silliest, happiest grin you could imagine! Keep heading toward your dreams, and best wishes for all your continued success!
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Thanks AVATC, great article as always Hmmm,
I realized that people have a vested interest in keeping you the same.
Makes me wonder what vested interest I HAVE in keeping me the same....... Time to journal.

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Tituba: Congratulations. It is very exciting to have such an endorsement!!!!! Putting those steps together is wonderful. I was on sologig today and there was 3 month contract for work similar to what you are doing for ...(yes a corporation) arggggh my brain has switched gears I believe in the PA area - I if I recall correctly you are in the NY area. Anyhow an idea and if you want me to dig deeper in the brain fibers I will. My internet path to it was indeed.com - researching trainer options. Next I understand wanting support from friends - live that you do face to face interactions with. I have a group of women I bowl with I do not even mention any longer what I am up to. 4 out of the 5 think I am scattered. 1 will support very well, but wonders why I am always trying to find something new and different. Family tolerates me - they love me (sisters, brothers and mother). I have one friend that get excited with me. Just wish we could connect more often. Sooooo keep the special connections here and continue to develop a live support network - success team - mastermind also. LOL You go for the gold girl. Your talent and generosity is not to be surpassed. !!!!!!!
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Tituba the only one that can tell you what kind of "job" you should have is you. Perhaps your friend's silence is tinged with a bit of jealousy...or she's just too proud to 'eat crow'. You are a success, simply because you are you. Agreed wit what AVATAC had to say about people wanting to keep you the same. Somehow it threatens them to see others succeed. reminds them of their own insecurities, maybe even their own failures. Great job...am sooo happy for you. sallypz (MoxieMe)

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Tituba: Just a note on my lack of observation - Boston area - North Shore - ok I am facing the correct direction now. I did look at Sologig.com again and it is an interesting site. I will bet that it is one you are familiar with as evidenced by all your marvelous fines you share with us. Keep on keeping on - as Barbara says you have a gift we all need to receive from you. Thanks!! and Congrats!
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Tituba did you journal about your wanting to keep yourself the same? I was wondering if you came up with any insights. I really enjoyed the blog article that AVATC wrote also! It was so right-on about everything that happens when you share a success with someone who isn't growing or doing anything exciting with their lives. (On a sidenote, one of my friends took voice-over lessons and made a demo. We were in NYC and we stopped to visit one of my brothers while there. He told her to send him the demo and he would get someone in the business to listen to it. He has contacts everywhere and that could have been a break for her. She never sent him the demo!) A couple of my friends could care less about my activities outside of what I do with them, and I pose the question to myself - why do I continue to stay friends with them? Would you beleive that last night I googled "How to ditch a boring friend"? :D

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Yes, ongoing personal evaluation. Too personal to share with online community.

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Lots of activity going on now. In March, I'm a guest presenter in Rhode Island for the Storyteller's conference. In April, I will be speaking about the value of improvisation in the workplace to a human resource manager conference. Hopefully, this will lead to work.

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Yeah! Way to go lady! You are demonstrating cycles and how it all comes out more toward the top. I need to look at more of the threads to gain more insight into you wonderful talent.!!
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Today I held a workshop for 51 human resource managers. It went well - lots of laughter. A couple gave me their cards and expressed interest in having me come in and train. :) :)

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