150 Steps for January '10

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Wow! Thanks for all the great comments and lively discussion.
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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hi PLG, glad you see you again. Yes, it is very busy on there lately, obviously we all must have had a lot to say over the holidays, must admit I don't have anything to add today :D

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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PLG---Great job!!300 days without smoking and still counting. Hooray!!! You go Girl!!! Mannix--I would have been ready to tie the relatives to the tail of the plane if I had to to get rid of them. Hmmmm, I like the idea of Blockbuster Days for working on simultaneous, multiple projects. Ok, I'm a little embarrassed that I'm not as computer literate as most people on this site seem to be...seems like everyone here has blogs, web pages, etc...etc...etc... not me, I'm such a beginner... but I did take a 'step', albeit small, in my quest to conquer the computer maze..... I created 'a page'.... even put the photos in myself...did all the red-eye correcting, etc on the photos myself....although I did try to scan another photo into my computer with no luck...new printer/scanner...suppose it might help if I were to read the directions...If I could ever find them..when I do find them I'm putting them right under the printer where I can find them..I use to be so organized about keeping the directions to everything readily accessable, when did that fall apart....anyway, this is my 'page'..not much but a step in computer literacy: http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage.asp?id=SALLYPZ The benefits of becoming more computer literate became readily apparent to me this past week when purchased, on-line, an educational 17dvd set of nursing videos normally priced at just over $3,000. for only $21.00. They're in perfect condition, not one scratch. An incredible savings...and to add to that because they're 'professional educational videos' that I will use in my practice and for teaching my students I get to take the $21.00 off my taxes. An experience that pointed out the importance of learning to, and using my resources (the computer) wisely. We also did some of our Christmas shopping via the internet this year, which gave us a chance to search for the best prices. It saved us a lot of money. sallypz(MoxieMe)

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hi: Unity: nothing to say (?) PLG
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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hi, everyone, PLG, I'm sorry you're feeling so confused. My opinion is you need to remove yourself from both these situations: FADS treating you as a suspicious person and your Dad yanking you around about when he's going to send money. Both are treating you disrespectfully, will most likely not change, and you don't have to subject yourself to that constant treatment. Like quitting smoking, it would not be easy to walk away from them, but you will be healthier in the long run. I hope this helps a little. -- Mannix

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Mannix - I sent you a PM on your genealogy

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hey, everyone, I kicked goalwork butt yesterday! :D First, I went down to the National Archives in Washington, DC for a free lecture on beginning genealogy. I also found out they have all kinds of history and genealogy lectures, and they're all free! More importantly, I overcame resistance to going to the class. ("It's really cold and I'll have to do a lot of walking outside," "I can probably find the same information online," etc.) Then I saw the note I made about the time and room number for the lecture and decided I didn't want this to be a reminder of yet another thing I didn't do. So .... Later that day, I went out again to a step aerobics class at the gym. And that evening, I finally called my Uncle to ask what he remembered about my grandfather. I also wrote another entry for my blog and listed it on my Facebook page and on the blog thread here. So my reward today is I get to stay inside on yet another very cold day. I'm going to use it as a Blockbuster day to catch up on long neglected chores - laundry and kitchen and others if there's time. Tomorrow will be a Blockbuster day to finish up errands. Things are slowly getting back to normal. Hope everyone has a great day! -- Mannix

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Mannix---How fun to live near enough Washington DC to visit there whenever you'd like. There's so many interesting things to see there., Smithsonian, etc... I haven't been to any of it yet myself, but would like to take the family in the next few years. The lecture sounds interesting, can't beat free for a good price!! Read your blog...interesting...have you located your grandfather's death certificate? From what you write he died around 1948, if you know his full name, date of birth might help too, it might be possible to locate a death certificate. Death certificates are state records, I think, so it might not be necessary to know his exact city of death. A death certificate might even list where he was buried??? not sure about that though. But a death certificate certainly would list a cause of death. If you could locate the name, place of the military unit he did basic training at, there's a chance you might be able to locate photos of him in uniform. In basic training they do individual photos, like school class pictures, of every individual and unit...I have mine from basic training...and I've seen photos of service people that date back to WWII displayed on Veterans day too..so I believe the practice of taking photos goes back to WWII. There must be an archive of those photos somewhere. PLG-Much sympathy. I agree with Mannix. Been trying to kick some goal-butt myself today (despite a cold--everyone at our house is sick with colds). Got a few things done, but not nearly enough. Kept getting interruptions...web site I was manuvering didn't do what I wanted it to do....printer ran out of ink etc...little frustrations. Tomorrow I intend to drive down to the Grad School and buy my books, have lunch, drive home. Hopefully the streets will be less slippery than today...I hit a snowbank while making a turn today, luckily no damage (only my pride) as I was only going about 2 miles per hour. But I felt foolish. Must go tuck the little one in bed--she has a cold too--and has been home from school for 2 days--she gets scared at night if I don't tuck her in. It's nice being a mom. Tucking in is one of the perks. sallypz(MoxieMe)

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impress yourself

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Thanks Mannix for that question
I read an article yesterday which made me think. If you were to be really impressed with yourself, what would you be doing in each area of life, each project?
Was that online, perchance? Please share the link. I'm not much in a mood to impress anyone, too busy! Keeping the gremlins in line, but, they are persistent. Have a project tomorrow and yesterday the Printing Gremlin made the toner run out on the work computer. Then the replacement Gremlin (very inexperienced) had the print-shop use the wrong color on the major set of copies. I let it go. Score one for the Gremlins. Then, the Email Gremlin didn't deliver two email messages I sent to my client. And the Low Air in Tire Gremlin had me running to the gas station to put in air, and worried it might be a Slow Leak Gremlin, instead. The Low Oil/Anti-Freeze Gremlin twins had to be put down. And, then there's wonky Google Maps Gremlin messing with the directions. As I get better at details they are sending back more of their Starters! Argghhh! Lynx 7, Gremlins 5. 24 Hours left in play, they are on their Last Day Drill. Stay vigilant. Lynx
"Vision is not enough. It must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps; we must step up the stairs." Vaclav Havel

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hi, everyone, Sally, thanks for the info on the death certificate. Tituba sent me a link on how to obtain one. I thought I saw my grandfather's date of death in my notes somewhere. Will have to go back through them. One of the points the lecturer made was to keep your research organized. Oops. :oops: After talking with my uncle about my grandfather, I felt bad. It sounds like life with his dad wasn't a great time. My uncle lived with my grandfather for 3 months and he says my grandfather spent the day in their room and nights drinking at the local veterans hall. He apparently had alcohol and gambling addictions and never held a steady job, just a series of odd jobs. Anyway, my uncle was eventually sent to a foster home to live. My uncle also said the police wanted to exhume my grandfather's body when they thought they found his killer, but my grandmother refused to give permission to exhume. I wonder if that means a murderer got away with it. Yesterday's Blockbuster Day fizzled a little. I forgot one of the most crucial elements - you have to turn off ALL interruptions! I had a friend come over to visit, and someone returned a phone call and talked for 30 minutes before I told her I needed to go! After that, my motivation got sapped. I did get a lot of laundry put away and cleaned up a good part of the kitchen, but there's still a lot to do, including errands that need to be done today. Lynx, so many gremlins! I hope they didn't do anything to harm your job performance rating! The car gremlins are after me, too. After already spending a lot of money to fix one car, it looks like the other car has some paint damage to it. Darn it, I thought it was dirt! On Unity's impress-yourself concept, I'm starting to ask myself how I'll feel if I follow through on something versus giving in to the comfort of an avoidance pattern. Seems like last year I dropped the ball on so many things - action is crucial for me. Also, following through on smaller things will give me strength to take on bigger tasks - I hope! Hope everyone has a great day. We've got snow here again! -- Mannix

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how does it feel

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Hello: Mannix, you posed an interesting question again: ask myself how I'll feel if I follow through I've had a odd pattern for a very long time. As I accomplish my todo list items my energy ramps up, sometimes. I get happier and more energetic, I'm getting things done. Even the smallest thing (dropping off a letter or package) builds that energy. I find it too much feedback into my emotional system. I've asked myself to just offer back (internally) enough to replenish what I deplete to do the thing but not much more. Save the bigger doses for larger, more important accomplishments. What are the ways we can say NO to distractions? Can we borrow the discipline techniques that musicians and athletes must have to protect their practice times? Things really on my yuck list (like preparing taxes) are the aftermath of a nagging dialogue about "I really need to get to this" v. "I really don't have energy for this, and don't wanna do it!" Lynx
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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Yikes!!! I can't believe it's the end of the next week already! I've been so busy writing and rewriting the plays (I have the third draft done on one and the second drafts on the other three) cleaning house, exercising, working on an article, preparing for my class that starts next month and restarting engagement with the elephant project that I didn't have time to tally up the work! I just finished working on a micro-funding site for the last few hours. Check it out at: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/862 ... al-footage If you have any suggestions as to how I can make it jazzier, I'd really appreciate it. Also, if you know of anyone who'd like to contribute toward the project, feel free to forward the link to them! Lynx- I was really interested to read about your feedback response and system overload. Would it help to decrease the "to-do"s to begin with? Then you could just focus on larger rewards- but do-ables so you get a little every day... Lately I've been focusing on building my self-respect, and that requires some work. I usually like to slide until I can't put something off anymore, but I've gotten pretty tired of that. What a concept! Over sixty and just kicking the procrastination habit! Mannix- I agree- it must be wonderful living near DC to take advantage of all the great stuff, especially in the Smithsonian.

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Tapit-- viewed your video, Fanny, in the scene where she's inside, penned is exhibiting some pretty obvious signs of high amounts of elephant stress. Her behavior shows this, the rocking back and forth swinging head etc...Captivity in a small area like that, and aloneness is very hard on elephants because they are herd animals that normally roam for hundreds of miles. http://www.squidoo.com/free-elephants-from-zoos has a couple of short videos. Have they ever thought of retiring her and sending her to Tennessee (don't laugh) see the sanctuary; http://www.elephants.com I don't think the sanctuary is open for public visits. Zoo's are still set up in a very old fashioned way, many are working toward a more 'animal friendly' approach. Some are cooperating world wide to keep a good gene pool on animals that are in danger of going extinct in the wild...captive breeding with intent of returning species to the wild. A great worldwide effort (mostly european) was very successful (so far) in breeding & returning the most primitive horse known to man, Przwalski's Horse--that went extinct in the wild in about 1966---into a sanctuary set up for it, in it's natural habitat.http://www.arkive.org/prezewalskis-horse/equuis-ferus-prezwalski/info.htmlhttp://www.treemail.nl/takh/ I hope that is the direction that all zoos of the future will take. One of the most 'animal friendly' zoos I've visited so far is near San Diego. I saw wide open spaces for the animals. Lynx--the Gremlins visit your house too?? I, too would like the link to the article about: 'If you were to be really impressed with yourself, what would you be doing in each area of life, each project?' --Wrote that one down...good food for thought...plan to hang it where I can read it over each day...next to the computer. Mannix--sounds like your uncle had a difficult life. If your grandfather was into gambling in the 1940's he may have gotten involved with some shady characters--some pretty mean, unforgiving shady characters...if he owed them money and couldn't pay (loan sharks, maffia...whatever...) murder would be a likely result. Historically some of those people often 'got away with it'. Today was an absolutely Stellar Day...Incredible. After yesterdays mess with the Grad school's web site..trying (and failing) to purchase/pay my tuition on line..so I decided I was going to drive down there today, pay the tuition via check, purchase my books in person. Mapquest gave me some screwy way to get there, but when I looked at the map I saw an extremely easy way to get there..drive one road, take one turn, drive the next road--you're there--all main highways--so I wasn't about to get lost in any midwest cornfields...that was my first success...my route worked so much easier than Mapquest's..and only 2 miles longer...but faster. Then I got down to the school, found the building with the bursurs office right away, went in paid the tuition..all fine..I happened to notice a small sign that said 'Vetrans Office' right down the hall from the bursurs office...I'm a vet and had some questions about VA home loans...and just on the far-out-crazy chance that my Vetran's educational benefits from 30 years ago were still good thought I'd ask about that too...Amazing...I didn't even have to tell the guys my name, only my social security number.They popped that into their computer and said "you got plenty of VA educational benefits left. It should pay for Grad school. All you'll have to pay for is a few college fees and books. We'll do that for this semester now." My entire tuition was paid for me instantly. I was so happy I had tears in my eyes....and I went to get my personal check back from the bursur. They also have a specialist in the VA home loans that comes in once a month...he'll be there on the 19th and so will I !!! There is a possibility the VA will help me get a house. A Stellar Day!! sallypz(MoxieMe)

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hi, everyone, Tapit, I just watched your elephants video, and posted your link on my Facebook page! What an original concept! Not knowing anything about Rhode Island elephants, I was curious why Fanny had to be moved, and what happened the fate of the other two elephants mentioned in the trailer. Is it possible to add a little more about them without making the trailer too long? I really liked the music you used and the footage of the children with Baby Roger. Sally, awesome news for you! I'll bet that takes a lot of weight off your financial shoulders! I hope your home-buying discussions with the VA go as well! With my grandfather, I'm now thinking about looking up some books or an expert on the gambling underworld of Pittsburgh in the 1940s. It would be interesting to learn what kind of people he may have been dealing with. Lynx, on the energy-follow-up, my energy seems to ramp up when I design realistic, concrete goals that can be accomplished in a reasonable amount of time. But designing the goals requires me to sit down and focus and when I don't do that, I end up with a long list of varied tasks and no sense of what really needs to be done now and what can wait. Then my energy levels fall. I was embarrassed when you mentioned musicians being protective of their practice time. I have been terrible about practicing regularly since wedding gigs finished up; I need to get back to it. :oops: So for me, lack of focus = frustration/falling energy. Creating focus = patience/no distractions/small successes/rising energy. Hmmm ... I need to remember this for the weekend! Yesterday, I rediscovered how much more I get done when the TV is turned off. Even when I have it on "just for background," I seem to do less. I got a lot of errands accomplished, including finally getting new glasses! Also called a student's dad about a payment discrepancy - he still owes me some money. I told him what my records said and he could also check his records. To which he responded, "I don't keep records; I do it all in my head." :!: And this guy is a medical doctor! I wonder what his credit report looks like. Today, we're going to my nephew's birthday party. My goal is to get a workout in before we have to leave. I also need to attend to my creative endeavors this weekend - writing the blog, practicing. And the NFL Playoffs start this afternoon, so I hope I'll get to sit down and watch some of that. Not sure any of the teams I like got into the playoffs this year. Oh, well. Have a good day, everyone! -- Mannix

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Re: 150 Steps for January '10

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Hi all, just checking in and lots of good posts to read - so will be commenting in due course. For those of you that loved that 'impress yourself' idea, I got it from this blog - advance warning, once you start reading this, you'll be hooked. p.s. I have no idea which article contained this idea as I've read so many. He's a young college student that speaks commonsense and get's right to the point.. http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/archives/ Mannix and Lynx and anyone else suffering from the gremlins - if someone had your family as hostage and told you to 'achieve your goals today' or else - would you say to them I don't have the time as I'm on the computer, don't feel like it, feel tired etc? I often think we don't have strong enough motivation if I'm honest. I know that there is a ruthless, extrovert, confident, selfish, driven side of me that will stop at nothing to achieve my end goal. However, I haven't had a focus worth pursuing like that in years. Nothing stirs my interest enough. So relating to my current goals (that have been ongoing for years) I could have a super organised home, be fit enough to be in the Olympics - so what? It doesn't interest me.

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