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September 2018 Daily Steppin'

PostPosted: Fri Aug 31, 2018 7:43 pm
by Elaine Glimme
Another month, another stepper thread, and another thirty days to work towards something awesome. Commit to working towards your goal, and we'll cheer you along.
"Life is full of miracles, but they're not always the ones we pray for." -- Eve Arden Thanks, Jason.


PostPosted: Mon Sep 03, 2018 9:25 am
by Lynx
Thanks Elaine for opening the month.

Past week or so stepped away my Challenges as much as I could. Feels good. Couldn't string two days together, though. It's move-in season for college and the streets are a mess of cast-offs. Our recycling is overfull, though simply looking at it I guess you might see it's full. Young ems!

This means a note to put on everyone's door in this condo. I suppose sooner rather than later.

Work, both paid and possible is ramping up. Jury duty next week, an annual mostly free festival on design drops in during Sept and the first week of October is Stoics Week. I get a lot out of SW, so looking ahead is pleasing.

Dr Teeth & Dr Eyes this week. Bracing myself.

I'm also getting through my library books. Don't feel I'll check out as many. Sensing that I'm getting the same annoying feelings, finding very similar ideas, and maybe taking a break from the ritual of check-out/check-in.

Awoke wondering if there is poem or quote about the end of a rest. Maybe Frost ...

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
And I have miles to go ...


Re: September 2018 Daily Steppin'

PostPosted: Wed Sep 05, 2018 7:51 pm
by Elaine Glimme
Hi, Lynx,

Me too - just had cataract surgery and a crown. WHat are the odds? Wishing you well with both doctors.

WRiting - what writing????? Can't seem to get moving.

Good wishes with everything.


PostPosted: Sat Sep 08, 2018 10:55 am
by Lynx
Elaine, speedy recovery to full health to you!

I'm wading into the next wave of intense work: a grant proposal to help write, meeting with city officials a client needs support for, drafting recommendations for a project I've invested a year of my time in, and (mostly fun) a festival sponsored by the design folks around 'trust.'

I have 3 books till to read through, and 1 more to get: Rebecca Solnit's A Paradise built in Hell. Was checked out last time I looked and I didn't reserve it. Waited until I saw how fast I could process the ones I have.


Re: September 2018 Daily Steppin'

PostPosted: Tue Sep 11, 2018 6:57 pm
by Elaine Glimme
Hi, Lynx, (and anyone else reading this)

Personal problems getting in the way. Tooth is fine, eye surgery, not wonderful. And my MIL isn't doing well.

Hope everything is a lot better for you.


PostPosted: Mon Sep 17, 2018 9:08 am
by Lynx
Hi Elaine,

Just back from a break.

May all your situations heal. A classmate from high school is struggling with a dying son who is being removed from life supports today. They have plans in place to donate his organs and cremate his body. This is heavy as she's been sending updates and requests for prayers (she's Christian) over the past few weeks.

For myself, here I am past the mid-month. Today, many years of crazy living come down to a decision & actions that’s out of my hands.

Since 2011 I & my partner have been the steady people getting our condo up to speed to replace its siding. I’ve commented before on this site about this saga and will spare myself the agony of rehashing the details.

The latest owner and also newest member of the Board has over-insisted on getting lots of things “nailed down” and in “iron-clad” language through the means of a contract. The siding vendor rebelled before signing and now the whole d*mn thing is on the brink of falling apart.

The board meets tonight, and my gut has been in full churn mode for the past week or so as I consider how very close this is to failing. We have no Plan B, no replacement company.

From this churn I have lots of feelings and thoughts of how to make yet another case to yet another board to keep this moving. I also resolve to do all I can to break the hex or spell that’s keeps our relations in continual turmoil.

I wish it were otherwise, I wish I had even a vote on the Board (I don’t. I attend as an owner). I wish for a lot of things that didn’t happen. I wish other people had caught my hints. I don’t want people to feel hurt (I’ll say that) but sometimes I’ll have to be more direct to save the work if the situation calls for it.

It would be wise for all of us to listen concretely and intuitively so that we spare ourselves direct standoffs. Sometimes Wisdom is in short supply.

Send support for me.


post board meeting

PostPosted: Tue Sep 18, 2018 8:41 am
by Lynx
Hi everyone,

I'm dealing with a spoiled self-entitling, non-imaginative A-hole. He seems to lack any gene for fitting in, listening, or acknowledging he's anything less than the gods' gift to us. He's a savior and protector of people who voted on the other side from his vote. Jewish, white, male, only son.

From my insides I'm puzzled how my entire life I've had to deal with this type of person in close quarters. My meditation this morning reassured me that I'll have the Spine and from the Spine flow the words. State my part, state it again, and then I have nothing further to add as we clearly continue to have our difference of opinion.

I'm dialing down the inner chatter of "I might have said or done this or that" because nothing would have cracked his inner sense of ideal perfection.

On to other glories,

full alert to A-hole; forging on

PostPosted: Wed Sep 19, 2018 7:48 am
by Lynx

Too much to do to spin more about this a-hole I'm dealing with. Also have a support group this pm and that will help.

When it's over I'll write it up as a coaching message for others.

Today, a team that's putting in a proposal is getting down to text. I'll print current in double space and single sided and different colors. That should keep me engaged till I leave at 10.

To the page,

20 - Deal Collapses

PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2018 7:09 am
by Lynx

It's with a very sad soul that I share that the deal has unraveled for replacing our siding due to irreconcilable differences among the board and with myself. We failed to align and find a way to work well together.

The latest offer from the contractor stresses the two areas that are our thinnest places: the contract and price. It's over our allotted funds.

My partners, who serves as the Board president, is disgusted. She wants to shut it down, pay our consultant what is their due, and return the money deposited by the owners to get this done. And step away from command.

A couple of proverbs: Turkish: When you find yourself on the wrong road, stop.
Songhay (African): If you road is blocked, go home.

About 7 years of work, countless meetings, visits to showrooms, escorting vendors around the building, persuading boards to accept necessary precautions, getting agreements on the materials, colors, style, railings, pricing, extra assessments, etc, etc. etc.

My goto friend is Holly Cole when this happens. I cried.

Going down with the ship.


Re: September 2018 Daily Steppin'

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2018 3:39 pm
by Elaine Glimme
Wqw, Lynx!

I remember many posts about the siding project. I'm sorry it's turning out this way. I'm wishing for a happy ending.

sat 9-22

PostPosted: Sat Sep 22, 2018 11:48 pm
by Lynx
Hi all,

Long into the 11th hour, literally, and metaphorically with the siding. Not entirely lost yet, but things don't feel good.

I'm am emotional scramble right now.

Yet, through anything, I can always get myself to sleep. An amazing talent. Auditioning for America's Got Talent next month.


Re: September 2018 Daily Steppin'

PostPosted: Tue Sep 25, 2018 5:45 am
by Elaine Glimme

I can't get to sleep no matter what. Wish I had your talent for that.

Me - lots to do and no energy to do it.

My computer froze. I went to the computer fix-it shop and there was nothing wrong with it. I brought it home, and it froze again. I deleted a lot of things, so hopefully that won't happen again. I seem to have the same document in many different places on the computer. I'm scared that if I delete said document from one place, I'll delete it from all of the other places and then won't have it anymore. Life is not kind to the computer-challenged.
I'm in the home stretch for my latest novel. It feels as if I should be able to finish it in a few days, yet . . .

I want to try sending letters to agents and trying to get this one professionally published. The major problem with that is that that it's the sequel to "Temporary Address" and frankly my writing wasn't as good when I wrote TA.

And my body hurts.


PostPosted: Fri Sep 28, 2018 8:40 pm
by Lynx
Hi Elaine,

Keep going, despite everything.

Re: computer. Back up all you have right now and keep that safe. When I was in grad school I sent backups to my brother periodically.

No sure what's causing your freezing. It also could be lots of apps open at once. Dunno.

Me: moving one foot in front of the other. Never trust when someone says, oh, it's simple. This means they themselves have done it so often they forget how hard or confusing it WILL BE the first time.



PostPosted: Sun Sep 30, 2018 9:00 am
by Lynx

My life slogs forward. Just in the past few days finished getting two (2) grant proposals in.

Its a tale of 2 grants. One was with four people who had a lot of lead time. I read the proposal several times looking for clues to their thinking. We made pretty agendas with drawings which we considered and swapped out for better one. We edited our draft answers daily for a week. The proposal could be submitted online till 11:59 PM.

The other one was a mad dash. A team of three of us this time. I was too wrapped up in the first one to be any help. The other two produced a very succinct proposal. No pictures. Limited appendices. This time delivery had to be by 5 PM tomorrow by post, including four plastic spiral-bound copies and an electronic version on CD or flashdrive. Monday delivery is not overnight or same-day, my partners learned, it's two-day and the deadline was Saturday, Noon.

We're sending messages via email and I'm both in and out of the loop at critical moments. Finally talk with one of the co-proposers who was standing in Kinko's/FedEx.Everything was ready. All they needed was my sign-off on what they wrote about my work. Which I did. Swoosh, sent.

Lots of emotion churned through last week. Remainder of Saturday and as much as I can manage today and tomorrow for recovery.

Looking for 48 hours on my calendar for next month where I can unplug.

I'll start October's thread.