I do have something I use that works well for me. It's a self-hypnosis tape called Manifest a Miracle by Dick Sutphen. It helps me get away from my negative attitude especially when I'm facing something I've tried to achieve before and failed.
There's cinema close to where I live that shows movies of the Bolshoi Ballet Season and the Met Opera season. They film the actual ballet or opera live and during the intermissions they show backstage views and interviews of the artists. Instead of paying the huge ticket price, I get to see ballet and opera for $20 per ticket. But no matter what I do, I can't find anyone to go with me. The season is staring again and my mind is going, "What's the point of trying again when you've failed every season before".
The tape is a relaxation tape, then allows you to visualize what you want to happen. It really helps me think things like this might actually happen and motivates me to try again.
I'm sure Barbara would poo-poo it but it works for me.